Wendy B. August 1st, 2011
Space – Not the Final Frontier
Being a Military family, we are often sent to places we might not necessarily want to go, sometimes with not a lot of notice, our worldly belongings are packed up into boxes by men who sweep through the house like a whirlwind, they are then shunted into containers and shipped thousands of kilometres, to be unloaded by yet another set of removalists often into a house we may not even like. A home, so recently vacated by another family doing the very same thing, it can feel like crawling into a stranger’s empty bed, while it is still warm from their bodies.
No matter how well it is all orchestrated, it is often a very stressful time for the family, time spent in temporary accommodation waiting for the ‘belongings’ to catch up, kids moving schools, making new friends. However, as an empath and home maker it can be emotionally and spiritually traumatic – if I am not careful.
I always thought it would be wonderful, if I could have a day in the empty place before we moved in to ‘clean house’ but that is rarely possible, so it is up to me to cleanse and claim as best I can amidst the boxes and chaos..
It is important to me, to make my family a home as quickly as possible. A warm environment, where they feel safe and cosy, as well as a welcoming and comfortable spiritual space as well. The latter is hugely important to me. One of the first things I do armed with sage, cedar and sweet grass, is smudge the house… I clean the floors with a herbal wash, drains and sinks are cleaned with salt and lemon… the doors and window sills are sprinkled with salt. I ask the deities I work with to bless and protect… I cleanse out space. As our household and personal items are often handled by packers who see items in boxes as nothing more than a reason for a pay check, it is often good that our belongings are shown some love with a good cleansing as well.
The next most important thing for me is to set up “sacred space” – I have done this in every house and there are little areas, dedicated to different deities about the place… a wee love altar in our bedroom dedicated to Aphrodite, in my kitchen Hestia is guardian of my hearth and Hecate resides in a main living area.
I have always had a place set up in our home, where I can go and sit and recoup, a place where a table is dedicated to the elements, incense is burnt here, candles are lit here, hands are clapped to music here, drumming happens here. This is my space; this is the area of the home from where energy flows to every corner. It is a place of grounding. That one place I can just look at, or walk past and feel the closeness to and the blessings of the God and Goddess.
There are so many stressors in life these days, work, school, deadlines, even a trip to the grocery store can be like running a gauntlet. It is so beneficial to us to have a place within our homes or gardens where we can get in touch with that still small voice inside. It matters not the path you walk – to set up a small place that becomes your power place is a very easy thing to do. Let yourself be guided to the place, you will ‘feel’ the right one, it could be a shelf with a few personal treasures, a corner where perhaps you can set up with a comfy chair and a wee table, adding things that are have meaning to you. Spend some quiet time there, make it yours… I know for myself having sacred space within the home has helped me through things that have felt insurmountable… With the somewhat transient life we lead, I have managed to make space – my first frontier.