Musings of a Massachusetts Witch

January 1st, 2013

Have To? I Disagree!


There are things we don’t want to happen, but have to accept; things we don’t want to know, but have to learn; and people we can’t live without, but have to let go.”


This was one of the many quotes that I read on a facebook friend’s status that at first read seemed to hold such a positive and powerful message until I contemplated the words and came to realize that I did not agree with it nor did I believe it to hold wisdom. Not one iota. In fact, I truly and wholeheartedly disagreed with it! Why? Well, let me explain my line of thinking by beginning with the first part of the quote.


There are things we don’t want to happen but have to accept.”

It is my belief that we experience only those events, people and circumstances that we either intentionally attract into our life or those things that we attract unintentionally or by default by allowing other sentient beings that dwell on this physical plane of existence influence our point of attraction or our focus. We are always responsible for our life experiences, as we have manifested them for ourselves for some purpose even if that purpose is as simple as being able to understand that it is something that we do not want to experience again.


This then leads me to question the second part of the quote. Do I truly have to accept that which I don’t want to happen (experience)? It is important to first understand what it means ‘to accept’. If we look to the online Merriam-Webster Dictionary we find that ‘to accept’ is defined as: to receive willingly, to give admittance or approval to, to recognize as true (to believe), and to agree to. Is it then possible to accept something that we have not manifested? If we have not attracted it into our life experience would we experience it at all? I don’t believe that this is even remotely possible. If I do not believe in something then I wouldn’t experience it and it would not happen to or for me so then there is no need to accept it. As I already stated, we always experience the events, people and circumstances that we focus our thoughts and emotions on whether it is an experience we would label as positive or negative. We are not powerless nor are we victims as the second part of this quote implies.


Things we don’t want to know but have to learn.”

It is my belief that we only know that which we desire to know. If we do not have knowledge of something then it means that we have not aligned with that specific vibrational frequency. We have not manifested it in our life experience. If we truly wish to attain knowledge of something then we will. We are not unfiltered vessels that have no control over what enters our mind or being.


We ‘have to learn’ only that which we desire to learn. Who dictates that which we have to know or learn? Society? The concept that there are things that I have to learn is something that I don’t resonate with. An individual student will only study topics and concepts that he or she wishes to gain knowledge of. Have you ever tried to teach a child something they have no interest in? Believe me, it is impossible. A student won’t focus nor will they comprehend a topic unless they have a desire to learn it. In other words, an individual will not know nor learn things they don’t want to. It is the old cliché, ‘You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.’


And people we can’t live without, but have to let go.”

Once you understand that your life is truly about you and you alone you will then come to the realization that the only person relevant to your life experience is you. You can live without any other person. I do believe that our life experiences are more enjoyable and even enhanced by interaction with other sentient human beings but they are not necessary for our survival.


Just as I do not believe that it is necessary ‘to accept’ I also do not believe it is necessary to ‘let go’ or release. While it is true that I cannot create for anyone else I do believe I am able to align myself with those individuals who resonate on the same vibrational frequency as I. Once our time together is complete we may attune ourselves to other vibrations, which will manifest as a separation within our relationship but this is a mutual understanding on an energetic level.


My explanation is centered on my understanding and alignment with The Law of Attraction. I believe that I am the co-creator of my life experience; I am empowered and responsible for every action in my life. It has led me to create a life filled with abundance, prosperity, joy and love.


There are things that manifest in my life and I accept each of them; things I want to know and learn; and people I choose to live with and hold on to. This is my truth.

5 Responses to “Musings of a Massachusetts Witch”

  1. Renon 19 Jan 2013 at 5:28 pm

    I feel that the quote shared on Facebook (as with many quotes on Facebook) is meant to be “deep” and thoughtful, but is really neither.

    I’m also a pagan (I’m a Taoist, thus non-Christian) and have a Taoist/Buddhist take on dismantling the quote, which is quite complimentary to your own.

    “There are things we don’t want to happen, but have to accept;”

    This part of the quote instantly implies by the way it is written that things we don’t want are negative, thus forcing us to “accept” these “bad” things. Qualifying life events as good or bad tends to disturb the delicate flow and balance of things and is often unnecessary. A Taoist would say, “it may seem bad at first, but how do we know it’s not a good thing in the end?” rendering our subjugation to “acceptance” null.

    There’s a Taoist story about a farmer and his son who find a horse:

    Among the people who lived close to the border, there was a man who led a righteous life. Without reason, his horse escaped, and fled into barbarian territory. Everyone pitied him, but the old man said : “what makes you think this is not a good thing?”

    Several months later, his horse returned, accompanied by a superb barbarian stallion. Everyone congratulated him. But the old man said: “what makes you think this cannot be a bad thing?”

    The family was richer from a good horse, his son enjoyed riding it, but the son fell off the horse and broke his hip. Everyone pitied him, but the old man said: “what makes you think this is not a good thing!”

    One year later, a large party of barbarians entered the border. All the healthy men drew their bows and went to battle. From the people living around the border, nine out of ten died. But just because his son was lame, the old man and his son were both spared.”

    A better way to start that person’s quote is–“there are things we wish would go differently, but we cannot always know what is really the best path for things in our lives until we have opened our mind and given things a chance.”

    The next part:

    “There are things we don’t want to know, but have to learn”

    I wonder if they are trying to imply that there are things we don’t want to know ABOUT? Or are they saying that, “yeah, we know you hate taking calculus–but you still have to stick it out and learn it to become an engineer”?


    Learning is always healthy, as is knowing when to let learning go and just be natural without preconception. I can’t imagine there being things I don’t want to learn about, even if they seem to be “terrible” things.

    Learning is magic.

    Last part:

    “and people we can’t live without, but have to let go.”

    As in Wicca, you are the core, the center. This does not imply superiority, simply that you are you. Though we are all connected, in this form you can really only approach the world from your standpoint. All answers are already within. The more centered your internal universe, the easier it is to take things we THINK we can’t live without.

    Letting go IS healthy. But it’s not simply because we cannot live without something and, again, must force ourself to let go.

    From the Tao Teh Ching:

    “Things arise and [the master] lets them come; things disappear and she lets them go. She has but doesn’t possess, acts but doesn’t expect.” (2)

    Buddhism also discusses how unhealthy it is to be attached to other people, objects and places. You can be detached and loving. “Detachment” is not negative, just the realistic centered-ness that comes from focusing on inner balance. You may love them, protect them, wish they could be around forever–but you are never forced to let go of them because you never possessed them to begin with.

    “The Master observes the world
    but trusts his inner vision.
    He allows things to come and go.
    His heart is as open as the sky.”
    (Tao Teh Ching, 12)

    I thought you’d find it interesting to know I also did not like the semantics of that “deep thought” and the implication that you have to submit and subjugate. There are parallels to the way we broke it down.

    Of course we must endure sometimes–but it’s all about perspective.

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