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Ask Your Mama

Mama Donna Henes February, 2011

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A Question of Mental, Physical, Emotional and Spiritual Sex

Dear Mama Donna,

I am a woman in my middle years and the excitement and sizzle of sex seems to have been turned off at the spigot. I am always comparing myself with the hot younger me who I seem to have lost. Is this the end of passion for me? Help! I want it back!

Frustrated in Phoenix

Dear Frustrated,

Oh, honey, this is absolutely not the end of your sex life. Don’t despair. And whatever you do, don’t stop. Regular sex, according to medical research, has the same benefits as regular exercise. It increases the flow of certain chemicals that naturally boost and strengthen the immune system, improves cholesterol levels, stimulates circulation, invigorates the heart, diminishes the intensity of pain especially in migraines and chronic arthritis, reduces PMS symptoms, and releases endorphins which simply make you feel good.

Here are some suggestions for getting the sizzle back:

Mental Sex

Mind your memories, good and bad. Do not dwell in the past. Do not look back in time in order to yearn for more youthful days or compare yourself today with who you used to be. And do not let past pain, rejection, repression, or abuse deprive you of your present pleasures. Deal with what you want to change so that you can Be Here Now.

Mind your manners. Be nice. Be kind. Be patient. Be encouraging, but be sure to ask for what you want. Be willing to communicate with an open ear as well as with an open mouth. Be clear and specific. Be gentle, but firm. Speak your truth and expect to be heard. Share your desires and fantasies and play them out. Show and tell.

Mind your P’s and Q’s. P stands for permission. Allow yourself to follow your instincts and your desires and give yourself the unconditional permission to do what comes naturally, whatever that might mean to you. Q is for the Queen in you who knows what She knows She likes. And She likes to get it.

Emotional Sex

Explore the full range of your sexual emotions. What feelings does sex engender in you? What needs do you want it to fill? Does it? Is sex an outlet for the release of stress, of anger, frustration, or boredom? Is it an avenue to tenderness, affection, closeness, intimacy, honesty, safety, openness, trust, and love?

Express your true emotional Self in all its myriad moods. Allow your funny, silly, lazy, sad, colorful, soulful, sinful parts out to play. Be adventurous. Be bold. Be brazen. Be wild. Be inventive. Be silent. Be solo. Be celibate. Be whatever you damn well please.

Exorcise your demons. Relax your resistance. Release your inhibitions. Let go of your mind altogether. Forget your emotions and all of your mental ramblings for a while, and just let yourself be. There are times when it is important to reflect upon and connect with your thoughts and feelings, and there are times when it’s just as beneficial to disengage. Sex would be one.

Physical Sex

Make friends with your body. The more accepting you are of your physical being — your best features as well as your flaws — the more comfortable you will be sharing it. Develop your sense of touch. Cover the surface of your body with paint, with clay, with cream, with silk. Caress the textures. Feel the tactile sensations on your skin. Treat yourself to a massage, a manicure, or a facial. Pat, stroke, rub, knead your skin and hair. Offer to massage someone. Ask someone to do it for you.

Treat your body well. Feed it wisely, air it often, water and exercise it with intention and care. Pay attention to its proper maintenance and upkeep. Keep it oiled and greased and limber, and don’t let it get rusty. Nurture its need to be nurtured. Tend to its requirements and pamper all of its parts. Prepare your body for sex. Soak in a warm tub full of fragrant water to melt into the mood. Rub luscious lotion all over yourself, caressing each mound and crevice and curve with love and anticipation.

Spiritual Sex

Create a sexual sanctuary, a safe and sacred space, a Temple of Love in which to indulge in your pleasures. Remove all distracting items that relate to the other parts of your life: notebooks, briefcases, pagers, bills, calendars. Turn the phones off, including the cell at the bottom of your purse. Cover the clocks. Close the bathroom door. Smudge your space with the smoke of myrrh or copal to cleanse the atmosphere and with the smoke of sweetgrass to invite in the sweet spirits.

Create a mood conducive to enchantment, enticement, and enjoyment. This is the royal boudoir, after all. A Garden of 1001 Delights. Decorate it in such a way as to appeal to all of the senses. Sheets and covers in soft fabrics, chenille, flannel, satin, to lie upon. Candles, soft lights, colored walls, flowers, and objets of art to please the gaze. Evocative perfumes, oils, and incense to smell. Lovely treats to taste.

Create a ritual before you make love. Think of sex as a way to connect, alone or in company, with the vibrating Kundalini energy that courses through you and the entire universe. Sanctify and ignite your intention by lighting a candle, saying a prayer, or by singing, chanting, drumming, dancing, anointing. Reach out to engage your Self, another, and All That Is, in an ecstatic embrace of spirit, passion, and love.

A new take-charge attitude can be just the catalyst needed to refuel the lethargic passion of our long-term marriage or partnership, or it could send us out in other, sometimes completely unexpected, directions. We could decide to take a lover, or a different lover, or an additional lover. If we have long been single, we might decide to begin dating and establishing relationships. We might, as is becoming more and more common, liberate our previously hidden, unfulfilled yearnings and “come out” as a lesbian in midlife. Or, if we have always been sexually active, involved and/or coupled, we could choose a period of celibacy, Self-exploration, Self-indulgence, and Self-love. The world is your oyster. Pick and choose according to your own persuasion and then partake!

Enjoy!

xxMama Donna

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Donna Henes is an internationally renowned urban shaman, ritual expert, award-winning author, popular speaker and workshop leader whose joyful celebrations of celestial events have introduced ancient traditional rituals and contemporary ceremonies to millions of people in more than 100 cities since 1972. She has published four books, a CD, an acclaimed Ezine and writes for The Huffington Post and UPI Religion and Spirituality Forum. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, maintains a ceremonial center, spirit shop, ritual practice and consultancy in Exotic Brooklyn, NY where she works with individuals, groups, institutions, municipalities and corporations to create meaningful ceremonies for every imaginable occasion.

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Sexual Magick **Adult Content

Olen Rush February, 2010

Improving Humankind through Sexual Energy

**ADULT CONTENT

We have covered a fair variety of the different aspects of Sexual Magick; however, one of the most important reasons to perform Sexual Magick is for the betterment of Humanity.

Most folks that are interested in Magick or the Occult are aware that ancient fertility rites were performed for agricultural and religious purposes.

However, there has been, for long ages, a subtle line of thought that these same types of fertility rites can be used to induce the incarnation of a higher soul into the body of a human infant, heal people, or improve the land. In fact the Sanctity that many standard religions attach to marriage is based on similar concepts.

The basic idea is that a Child that is conceived in Love, and with the correct Intent will draw down a Higher Soul into the Vessel provided by the Ritualized Sexual Act. And that the combined sexual fluids of the participants provide a subtle medium that attracts the Creative energies of the Universe into itself.

The general gist is that if more people were purposely conducting such rites, the increase in Spiritually Advanced Incarnations in the general Populace would stimulate further evolutionary advances within Society… thus, propelling Humankind to new heights

Another way that these Sexual energies can be used for the betterment of humanity is through the same schema used to increase crop fertility in times of old. One simply focuses the energy to the Earth, or directed towards healing a person, etc.

The sexual energies or “Eros” require that one be able to conjure up the “Ojas” or “Lust” energies and then direct them.

One may devise a Mantra as discussed previously… and allow this Mantra (that you have practiced for months and months) to play itself automatically over and over, until it seems to be running in the background. This allows one to perform more naturally in the bedroom than more formal rites.

The “Intent” of the Mantra (whether for a “Magickal Child” or Healing, or whatever) should be evident in its spoken meaning… thus it is a Ritual that does not require focus. This allows more spontaneity between the couple.

The couple should slowly allow certain Psychic and erogenous centers to touch each other. The Chakras, Erogenous Zones, Taoist Centers, or Kabbalistic Sephiroth all provide an excellent Anatomical framework for such foreplay. This will gradually increase both the activity of the relevant Pscho-Sexual Centers, and synergistically increases the level of Ojas or “Magickal Lust” as well.

One may incorporate Ritual objects such as Feathers, or even Whips and Chains, or Vibrators… whatever floats your boat.

As the act is performed the Mantra should be allowed to play on, and at the moment of release, a sharp visual focus should be added. This is particularly powerful if both parties incorporate the Mantra and Visualization… especially so, if simultaneous orgasm is achieved.

Although fairly simple, this technique has a broad range of application.

If one really contemplates the potential power at their disposal through the Creative Energies of the Universe the potential is enormous.

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Sexual Magick **Adult Content**

Olen Rush January, 2010

The Dark Feminine as presented in a classical Persian and Arabic Romance Story.

The “Story of Laylah and Mayjun” is a Middle Eastern Tale that has many forms. This most interesting of Middle Eastern Love Stories was known throughout the World and actually provided the basis for Shakespeare’s “Romeo and Juliet”, as well as being the inspiration for Eric Clapton’s songs “Laylah” and “I am yours”.

This Story is a concealed Mystery teaching on the Divine Feminine and it begins with the fact that “Laylah” means “Night” in virtually all of the Semetic languages.

So, we begin to see upon further examination of the primary characters, that “Laylah” is in many ways a representation of the “Dark Mother”; of the Night, the Moon in its Dark Phase, and the Sun at its lowest point during the Winter Solstice.

Now “Mayjun” actually means “Madness”. He represents the “World in Right Action”; particularly the repressive and overly moralistic Islamic World of that time. It is quite interesting that in this case the “World in Right Action” is named Mayjnun or “Madness”. This is the Bright Solar Male principle.

Some have referred to this story as the Story of “Madness for the Night” or “Laylah and the Madman”.

It is the story of someone who really is “Madly in Love”. It is also the Story of the separation of Sun and Moon that occurs during the “periods” of greatest darkness, and the least amount of Light. In this region of the World, there was a reversal in Celestial Government that occurred at the changes of season. Blessings and Curses were reversed. Saints were cursed and villains were honoured. It was considered that a drop of Menstrual blood from the Demonic entity Lillith poisoned the waters and made them toxic at these specific points in time. Often Orgiastic festivals were conducted, particularly during the Spring Equinox.

This story begins with Sayyid, a wealthy and powerful man without an heir to his legacy. He prays and beseeches Allah to emend this situation, and he is granted a magnificent son, who is named Qays. Qays was tremendously captivating to the eye. It is said that his beauty “grew in its perfection”. As a ray of light penetrates the water, so the jewel of love shone through the veil of his body.”

When Qays reaches school age he meets his fate (kismet)… Laylah. Her hair as dark as her name, her beauty as perfect as Qay’s, it was love at first sight. Yet, this took place in a culture where men and women are still kept separate, and most marriages are still arranged. Otherwise most interactions between sexes were forbidden. This is a tale of the forbidden, a tale of darkness and madness.

Laylah and Qays were so in love, that it could not be hidden. In such a restrictive environment, it was inevitable that it would be noticed. As people talked and rumors spread, Qays, out of his deep affection for Laylah, refrains from seeing her.

To protect her Chastity and her reputation, Laylah’s tribe denies her the right to even see or contact Qays at all. Qays falls into despair, and Madness (Mayjnun) becomes his name. However he also becomes “a poet, the harp of his love and of his pain”. He is in love with that which is by all sense of “Right Action” forbidden to him.

Mayjnun flees to the Wilds, he loses his self there, becomes unkempt, beast-like, and unable to distinguish between good and evil.

He travels with Sayyid to Mecca to seek Divine intervention and hopefully free his self from this Madness. Then, his countenance changes and Mayjnun hammers the Kaaba with blows while crying out “…none of my days shall ever be free of this pain. Let me love, oh my God, love for love’s sake, and make my love a hundred times as great as it was and is!”

Now, Mayjnun begins to wander. He is described as a “Drunken Lion”. He is ever reciting Ballads of Laylah’s great Beauty and of his Love and Feelings for her. As he wanders Mayjnun pours his heart into words of great love and power, and even greater melancholy, in his woeful separation from that which is forbidden to him. These are words are so tender, so magnificently beautiful, and touching that throughout the land his words are recorded.

As others begin to recite these poems of Mayjnun’s great despair, Laylah hears these odes and ballads, and holds her feelings inside, for none could know that these words were of her… these things were forbidden. “…She lived between the water of her tears and the fire of her love,… Yet her lover’s voice reached her. Was he not a poet? No tent curtain was woven so closely as to keep out his poems. Every child from the bazaar was singing his verses; every passer-by was humming one of his love-songs, bringing Laylah a message from her beloved …”

Is this not the requirement in worship to Laylah (the Night) before the Mystic Rites can ever be performed?

As she reminisces and experiences her own longing for Mayjnun (note: longing for the “Madness” of Love), Laylah begins to write out responses to the poems she is hearing and casts them to the winds. This procedure, almost therapeutic in nature, became a small release from her sadness. She refuses any and all suitors and broods endlessly in her despair.

Well, these notes were found and a rash person, desirous of hearing these poems from the lips of the Madness of Love itself (i.e. Mayjnun), brought these letters to Mayjnun to gain just such a favor. Thus a forbidden correspondence was taken up between the two separated and chaste lovers. They are “drunk with passion…”

This is the connection, the messenger of mutual Longing, Passion, Lust is the only medium that can transcend the “world of Right Action” and bring Night and Day together.

This makes the forced marriage of Laylah to another, by her own family a tremendous blow to them both… but particularly to Mayjnun.

So great was Laylah’s husband’s love for her, that he agreed to a chaste marriage. Laylah in turn honoured him with her faithfulness.

Mayjnun retreats to the Wilderness; the wild animals love him and sit in attendance to the recital of his miseries. He expresses thanks to the Divine for the Purity his Soul has attained, and expresses his need for Divine Grace. Mayjnun then experiences a dream wherein he sees a Tree arise in the barren desert from which a bird is roused, and which flying over him lets fall a precious diadem onto his head.

Later in life, Sayyid arranges a meeting between the two; they must stand ten paces apart. Here, in this heart wrenching scene, Mayjnun recites his poetry to Laylah one last time, and they depart in tears.

He refuses the Spiritual advancement normally associated with such fidelity, nobility, and right action. Instead, Mayjnun never releases himself from his love for the Night (Laylah); for that which is forbidden. Then Laylah’s husband passes away and she allows herself to openly mourn her love for Mayjnun. Her heart is unable to bear the realization of her tragic sacrifice, and Laylah dies. Mayjnun hearing of her fate dies upon his lamentations at the site of her tomb.

Sayyid is taking up to Paradise in a dream and sees Mayjnun (Madness) as the “World in Right Action”, and Laylah as the “Moon among Idols” (i.e. in its “Darkness”). However, they are now joined together forever in Paradise.

When he awakens from the dream he realizes “… Commit yourself to love’s sanctuary and at once find freedom from your ego. Fly in love as an arrow towards its target. Love loosens the knots of being, love is liberation from the vortex of egotism. In love, every cup of sorrow which bites into the soul gives it new life. Many a draft bitter as poison has become in love delicious. . . . However agonizing the experience, if it is for love it is well.”

When one is exposed to the lessons of the Dark Erotic Feminine it becomes apparent that the “World in Right Action” is unable to approach near to her in her Beauty, and Forbiddeness. Thus, there is a degree of diminution of the Male Ego that must occur in such Rites. This is, in fact, represented by the Moon’s loss of the reflected Light of the Sun as its dark “Period” occurs. Yet, the true “Desire” of the Dark of Night is to the very “Madness”, the Lust or “Ojas” that is the connection between them.

So, the Male at this time must “Die” to the perception of “Right Action” as defined by the Laws of the World. The death of the “World in Right Action” allows the Male to elevate a normally forbidden action to a Celestial Paradise beyond the concepts of “Permitted” and “Forbidden”. Only in this manner is he allowed the Eternal Communion of her embrace, both in Darkness and in Light.

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Sexual Magick **Adult Content

Olen Rush December, 2009

** Adult Content **

The Dark Side of the Divine Feminine

It is relatively easy, in a Patriarchal Society, to pay tribute to the Creative Aspects of the Divine Feminine. Yet, one should at least appreciate the Non-Creative Aspects as well.

In Tantra Yoga one uses the ability to arouse certain energies of “Lust”, that when retained by the Practitioner, are termed “Ojas”.

When these Ojas physically and astrally manifest themselves, they are termed “Kalas” and relate very strongly to the Sexual, Astral, and Physical Fluids of the Male, and Female Human Being.

The Female is representative of the Lunar Force in both its waxing and Waning aspects, just as the Male is symbolic of the Light of the Sun in its yearly patterns of Increase and Decrease.

There are 14 base Kalas and 2 Hidden.

The Lunar Orbit is completed every 28 days, thus there are 14 days when the Light increases, and 14 days when the Light decreases. Each specific major Phase (i.e. either Waxing or Waning) adds to the number of Kalas and brings the number of Kalas to 15 types for each phase of this “Cycle of Time”, or Time “Period”. There is also a Hidden Kala which is outside of the Cycle of Time. Thus the total Kalas are 16 Bright Kalas, and 16 Dark Kalas.

In recent times, due to the Paternal structure of Society, only the Bright, Waxing, and Fertile Aspects of the Divine Feminine have been appreciated. Yet, the Darker Mysteries of the Divine Feminine are left largely unexplored. Many societies have Taboos against Sexual Intercourse during a Woman’s menses. This is a carry over of the fear of the Female, when she is elevated above the realm restricting her to the role of Mother, and Keeper of the Home.

For the Mysteries of the Dark Side of the Divine Feminine are the Mysteries of Sex for purposes other than Pro-Creation. It is the emission of the Blood that reveals this side of Things, not the emission of Semen. Blood has long been used as a medium for Spiritual Forces. At this point in a Woman’s reproductive cycle, there are Spiritual Forces that are emitted by the Menstrual Flow. These are the energies of Dissolution and the direct projection of the Divine Feminine Power (it is not introverted and retained for the production of a Child). No wonder Male-Dominated Society fears Sex outside of Procreation. It is a direct release of these Feminine-based energies into the World. These are “Transformational” energies, and are only “Destructive” in their ability to dissolve the “Illusion” of certain false viewpoints held by an unbalanced and Male-Dominated Society.

The Tantrics used a variety of techniques, but all of them were preceded by one thing… an appreciation, reverence, and worship for the “Non-Creative” Potencies of the Goddess.

First, there were certain Ritual Violations of Taboos of Caste, Diet, and Environment. This was not done to be offensive to other traditions, but to elevate the Participants over the Laws of both God(desses)s and Humanity. Thereby, ritually identifying the Participants as Deities in themselves. Then the Male began to “Worship” and Bathe the Goddess, anointing her with various perfumes and scented oils specific to varying body parts, and energy centers. The participants may spend days together before actually touching one another. Once touching began, Words of Holiness and Power would be vibrated into both Physical and Subtle Centers. Only the strongest among the “Heroic” Class would be deemed worthy, or able, to tolerate the presence of the Goddess in her Nakedness. An act made even more Powerful if menstruation was occurring.

Sexual actions would be very prolonged and orgasm specifically delayed and intensified in order that the personalities of the participants would be dissolved. Thus allowing the manifestation of Divine energy utilising the Bodies of the Participants as the appropriate Vessels required to contain the energies of the Deities invoked into corporeal form.

These Rites were conducted outside of the normal parameters of Orthodox Religion and Paternal Society. This side of Tantra was involved in the worship of the qualities of “Dissolution”, “Transformation”, and “Desire” which have nothing to do with the continuation of a Male Line. So, these things were labeled as “Dark” and “Malevolent” by the Establishment.

A return to the Mysteries of Lord and Lady should be inclusive of all sides of being in all their varied and sundry aspects. Hopefully, the future will bring us just such an appreciation of the True Nature of all things.

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Sexual Magick ***ADULT CONTENT***

Olen Rush November, 2009

***ADULT CONTENT***

Bodily Fluids and Sexual Magick

Well, we have discussed Taboo and Chastity as techniques in one’s Sexual Magick arsenal. Today, we are going to discuss techniques involving Bodily Fluids.

This is also one of the most dangerous arenas for Sexual Magick. WARNING: The most dangerous Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) are contracted via Body Fluids. Before engaging in this type of activity, one should be assured that there is no chance of contracting an STD (Laboratory Testing, Monogamy, etc.).

The Reproductive Cycle of Humankind can (and should) be viewed as a Microcosm of the Creative Act of the Universe. An initial dichotomy manifests as two opposites, which through union creates something totally distinct from either source. This union temporarily “destroys” the individuality of both in the “fusing together” of the opposites. This gives a rather unique meaning to the term, the “Big Bang Theory”.

Now, when Humans mate there are fluids that are secreted prior to the consummation of the Sexual Act. These fluids provide lubrication and a very nice pool for our little tadpoles to swim in. Both genders contribute, and in the intermixing of these Body Fluids a medium is Formed, which can lead to a penetration of the ovum by the sperm. In other words, the union of male and female is capable of creating “Life”. How much more Magickal can it get? Well, if this process involving sexual fluids can create life… which is in a sense… a display of ultimate power… then these fluids must truly have unique Magickal properties.

Paschal Beverly Randolph was a Rosicrucian, Sex Magician, Spiritualist, and advocate of equal rights in the 19th Century. He developed an organization called the “Brotherhood of Eulis” where Initiates received formal training in various techniques of Sexual Magick. It was not of a restrictive nature. No chastity in this group! In fact the teaching of the Brotherhood was firmly based in the necessity to bring the female to orgasm (a very untypical view for the 19th Century, and sadly enough in the 21st). The body positions and postures were based on certain Western Esoteric teachings. The most difficult part is the “Concentration” required during the fulfillment of the Sexual Act.

During the mutual Orgasm, both parties were to hold the object of their desire firmly in their mind. The intense Creative energies released during simultaneous Orgasm can effectively dissolve the barriers between Worlds and “Create” a Thoughtform of much potency. This energized Thoughtform is the “Magickal Child” of this Union. This Child is the product of the Sacrifice and Death of the “Old King” (the now flaccid Penis) in his “giving” to the Queen. However, this Potency and Power of the Creative Energies of both parties have now been used to “Animate” (give “Life” to) the Thoughtform created during the Sexual Act. This was also a Theory advocated for the betterment of Society, since Children conceived within such a program were deemed to be most worthy and blessed vessels for Great Souls to manifest themselves in.

The difficult part is maintaining this level of concentration during Orgasm… which is where utilizing a Chant or Mantra comes in very handy. If one trains themselves at chanting or the use of mantras, one can reach a point where the Chant takes on a life of its own. The Chant becomes background music to everything else, and seems to mysteriously play constantly through one’s mind. The Chant no longer requires verbal recitation, it plays on and on, like a line from a TV commercial that is stuck in your head (an insidious use of Black Magick by marketing firms). When this level of Chanting is achieved, one only has to initiate the Chant, and it will be playing in the background, without having to over concentrate and wreck the sensual mood by making everything too mechanical.

Now, this focused energy has created a new form within the combined body fluids (post Orgasm) that are now resting within the Grail. This is now a “Consecrated” substance. It can be used Eucharistically, it can be used to Anoint, or Consecrate tools, papers, spells, talismans, amulets, sacred grounds… the list goes on.

Suffice it to say, this is a very Powerful Substance and it is called by some: the “Elixir of Life”. The further uses of this substance will not be discussed today but will be left to the Creative Genius of the Sexual Magicians experimenting with these techniques.

I finish with a quote from Paschal Beverly Randolph’s Eulis:

“CONCLUSION: THE LYMPHICATION OF LOVE. — I have already herein called attention to the various secretions — normal — of the human pelvic viscera, and named them lochia, exuviæ, semen, Duverneyan lymph, prostatic and Cowperian fluids. I now call attention to another, different from all and far more important than either, and which is the only one common to both sexes alike. I refer to that colorless, viscid, glairy lymph, or exudation which is only present under the most fierce and intense amative passion in either man or woman. This lymph has been noticed by M.D.’s, and regarded as a. vaginal or prostatic secretion, but it is neither. They sought for its point of issuance, but found it not, because, prior to its escape, per vagina and male urethra, it is not a liquid at all; but, the liquid is the resultant of the union of three imponderables, just as common water is the result of the union of two gases and an electric current. Just so is this lymph the union of magnetism, electricity, and nerve-aura, — each rushing from the vital ganglia and fusing in the localities named. When it is present in wedlock’s sacred rite then Power reigns and Love strikes deep root in the soul of the child that then may be begotten. If it is absent, the world is sure to receive a selfish, mean, small, contemptible thing in human shape, — a terror, or stalking crime and pestilence, — a partial man or woman, of little use to him or herself, and none at all to others, the world, or God.”

Blessed Be!

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Sexual Magick **Adult Content**

Olen Rush October, 2009

**Adult Content**

Chastity as Sexual Magick


Despite the interest in the other forms of sexual magick… today we are going to discuss, “Chastity”. It is important to realize that chastity is also a form of Sexual Magick and has been used for magickal purposes for untold millennia.

In the ancient Roman religion there was only one type of “Priest” who’s role was carried out exclusively by Females. These were the Vestal Virgins, who, from pre-puberty committed themselves to Chastity for 30 years.

Now, curiously enough… their primary job was to attend to the Sacred Fire. It is also of note that cross-culturally… the Sexual Energy is often called the “Sacred Fire”. Vesta was Goddess of the Hearth, the home fire. This is quite telling in itself.

In medieval magickal grimoires it is common to see rules to refrain from sexual activity for a set period of time before evoking the spirits to visible appearance or beseeching the Angels for aid.

In Taoist Internal Alchemy and some forms of Yoga, the Sexual Energy is tended to, by withholding it… and circulating it through various “Channels” and “Meridians”. This sexual energy seems to link Heaven and Earth through Humanity, which stands between them.

By withholding the Sexual Force, one is able to internalize the energies and then utilize them for other purposes… whether Mystical or Magickal.

There are even techniques where one brings their self to the very brink of orgasm and then by physical manipulation withholds the release of the energy, so that it may be re-absorbed and transmuted into something immediately and Magickally useful.

Because the individual’s Sexual Force is part of the Creative Energy of the Universe… it may be used to “Create”. This can be quite obvious, as during the conception and birth of a child. However, the retention, circulation, and release of these same energies through Magickal Rites can be extremely powerful tools for today’s practitioner of the .

As anyone who has restrained from sex long enough can attest… the withholding of Sexual Forces definitely builds up some energy that requires an eventual “release”. We also occasionally hear someone describe a fantastic session of sexual activity as, “there were fireworks going off”. Now, by the inner retention of these energies… one is able to re-channel them and in effect cause the same fireworks to be used as fuel for another Magickal vehicle.

Now, IMHO it is not healthy (in today’s society) to repress the sexual energies for extended periods of time. The Catholic Church which has for centuries advocated the Sexual Magick of Chastity in its Priests and Nuns… has been involved in countless cases of sexual abuse, due to the longterm effects of sexual restraint in those not psychologically prepared to handle it.

The big advantage this method (with some exceptions where actual sex is halted prior to orgasm) has over most of the other methods of Sexual Magick is its high level of safety against STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases). So, if you want to try Sexual Magick, but have fears over its safety… maybe try a period of Chastity. After all, aren’t you sacrificing a part of yourself and your own creative energies in service to the Lord and Lady?

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Sexual Magick **Adult Content**

Olen Rush September, 2009

**ADULT CONTENT**

Taboo and Sexual Energy

Of all areas of one’s life there is no area as enmeshed with Prohibition and Taboo as one’s Sexuality. Sexual impulse and energy was the basis of the modern Psychoanalytical movement as propagated by Sigmund Freud. Freud was able to identify many dysfunctional patterns within humanity’s social structure as being the result of repression of sexual impulses… particularly as advocated by (but not the exclusive property of) the Orthodox Monotheistic Faiths. At the same time it is important to recognize that the modern revival of various Pagan and Neo-Pagan Faiths is in part a reaction to the restrictions (on perfectly Natural Behaviors) that are so strongly advocated in the Orthodox Monotheistic Religions. It is also important to recognize (before I’m accused of demonizing the Abrahamic Faiths) that nearly all ancient Religions, whether Pagan or Monotheistic, include prohibitions and taboos of various types… sexual and non-sexual. When it comes to Magick, a great deal of energy is released by the violation of a Sexual Taboo. This is obvious, even on a casual level, where some folk’s find semi-public acts or other personal taboos, to be so very exciting. Let’s look at Taboos a bit closer… from a Magickal perspective… particularly when it comes to Ritual, but first a note of caution; sexually prohibited actions can also be harmful to an individual in many cases, and one should do some self-examination or engage themselves in therapy, if this is the case. Neither, am I advocating that you just go out and violate all of your personal values and morals (unless you are extremely attractive and live in Eastern Michigan… did I mention I may be reached through……..), just to do so. What I am saying is that in some cases, where there are very few hang-ups, neuroses, etc.; violating a taboo (which can be simply trying a new activity)can release a great deal of Repressed Energy. This same Sexual Energy is what fuels the operations commonly referred to as Magick. However, the level of consciousness at which the operation is conducted can alter the ceremony dramatically. The Taboo can be literally broken,

Symbolically broken, vicariously broken. But one should not proceed to a level that can be psychologically or physically harmful to themselves or another participant. In regular life… one couple may find it appealing to role play and dress up as characters different from their normal selves… another couple may find this akin to a rejection of either his or her self, or both… or even perceived as a form of cheating. Although both couples may be able to identify the activity as a dramatic portrayal of a taboo (sex outside the monogamous relationship); one couple is able to utilize this as a tool to release greater amounts of sexual energy, while the other is only able to view the suggestion as a personal rejection, and the energies are again unhealthily repressed… or harmfully misdirected. However, if one can take a more healthy and Magickal view of Sex… the dramatic role playing of the Taboo of Sex with another partner (i.e. your attired as other people than yourselves), when combined with the assumption of the Astral Figures of the appropriate Deities by the Participants, can actually release the energy required to “jump start” or enliven these Astral Forms as Psychic Generators… which are able to bestow this same Creative energy, elsewhere… as directed. When one participates in the performance of a Taboo, whether performed directly in a Physical Manner, Vicariously by observation of Ritual, Symbolically such as in a Eucharistic Rite, or Dramatically as in Ritual Performance and Role Playing… there is a not only a release of energy but adiminishment in the Ego. This diminishment in the Ego is every bit as important as the release of Energy that occurs. In a Dramatic Ritual the diminishment in Ego that occurs simultaneously with the release of Sexual Energy (which is Psychically amplified by the performance of the Taboo), may be utilized to allow the Consciousness of the Deity being invoked to, in effect, fill the space vacated by the now diminished Ego. Meanwhile, this now expanding Force of Deity is energetically fueled or catalyzed by the released Sexual and Creative Energies. In this way is Humanity able to imitate Deity and even Create Deity itself… to some degree. Now, the invoked Deities, which have become conduits for this Creative Force, are able to administer it to the other Celebrants (if there are any) either through Eucharistic Rites, Symbolically, Vicariously, Directly (via Orgiastic Rites), to charge Talismans or Amulets, to direct Spells, Theurgy, etc. Hopefully this has provided fuel for thought into the energies released by permitting that which is forbidden. I have stuck with providing more in the way of hints than specific guidelines in performance. However, there is more than enough information there to allow those that are ready to apply the information, to do so. The forces are very real as are the risks involved. In the right hands these methods are a blessing in the wrong hands they can be a curse. Use with caution and Blessed Be!

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Sexual Magick

Administrator April, 2006

One doesn’t have to be a witch to practice sexual magick. All that it requires is a setting, or mood; intent (prayer) and energy-raising (the act itself). Anyone can do it.

It happened to a friend of mine. From the 1990s onward, he and his wife became estranged from one another due to a major rift that has become irreparable. During the 90s, he left home but returned soon afterward to try to resolve the marriage. During that time, he told me, he and his wife were intimate only a handful of times. One of those times, he prayed for a child.

When the wife stopped having periods, she assumed it was menopause. Only when she felt movement within did she take a pregnancy test. My friend was so shocked that he could not believe the child was his (they had problems conceiving their second child). But when the child was born the resemblance to his father was unmistakable. My friend calls his youngest son “a miracle from God”.

Sexual magick? I think it was – it met the criteria listed above.

Before I became a Witch and involved with the temple practicing sexual magick, I had a pretty active sex life in my twenties. I found that when I was having sex, I had a connection to my partner’s mind. I had a sense of what the partner was thinking. Usually it would be jumbled, confused thoughts, but it was heaven to me. If I didn’t see this person again (and many times I didn’t), I would always have a part of them inside me through this connection.

I didn’t think that sex could be healing back then. I often felt shame for what I did. I had many one-time encounters at a time when AIDS was prevalent not only among gay men, but also among heterosexuals. I often did not practice “safe sex”, secretly reveling in their orgasms, partaking of their semen. I was fortunate. I did not have an STD. But the guilt from these encounters haunted me for a long time, and a part of the guilt remains today.

It wasn’t until I became involved in my temple that I learned of the healing properties of semen. It would mostly be emotional. I got an euphoric feeling when a man came inside me. It meant to me that I knew I did good – that I pleasured him. My male friend at the top of this article once told me that a man’s absolute expression is in his cum. I don’t doubt him.

Through my temple I participated in a few rituals involving sexual magick. Only one of these rituals was structured with a good part of it involving ceremonial magick. The other rituals involved a grounding and centering and candlelight, but otherwise unstructured. My temple always did a Beltane celebration involving a “bacchanalia” where members, invited guests and friends were free to indulge in sexual pleasure, or just watch. The first Beltane I participated in included a handfasting between a temple member and his beloved, who was initiated into the temple by the Great Rite. I, too, participated and had a good time, although I had to work out some mixed feelings a few days later with my High Priest. As in BDSM, aftercare is involved in ritual, particularly if it’s the first one a member participated. I was told that so much energy was generated through the ritual that a Full Moon Ritual was not needed.

The Full Moon Ritual in which I participated took place almost a year ago, and I was an “energy donor”. As such, I participated in the ceremony. Sacred space was created, and Lucifer and Lilith were invoked. I and two other women who were also energy donors were purified by smoke, salt and water, and a flogging. After the Fivefold Kiss, we divided into small groups and the High Priestess and Maiden performed oral sex on us to harvest our orgasms, which would be used to power the working. The working was to bring together one couple who was going through some difficulties following an illness, and to separate another couple who had ended a long engagement. The participants in the ritual were also invited to write our romantic intentions or separation petitions on slips of paper to be included in the working as well.

Being an energy donor for me wasn’t easy. I had no trouble working with the High Priestess who went down on me, but I had trouble concentrating on working on an orgasm. But after some time, I was ready and after a few minutes generated an orgasm that was such a whopper I could be heard throughout the house.

The outcome of the ritual was largely a mixed bag. The couple who was going through difficulties was successful at reconciliation. The couple going through separation, I heard, was trying to reconcile as well. My petition worked, though not the way I had envisioned. Goddess works in mysterious ways, but Her wisdom prevails.

I also worked sexual magick online with interesting results. Here are two stories:

One of them involved a younger man I met through my online journal. At the time we began our friendship, he had begun a relationship with another woman, but had trouble getting over his past love. We began communicating through instant messenger and replies to posts, always with messages of encouragement and humor.

One night I saw a post that spoke directly to my heart. It involved a passage from a favorite movie of his and it conveyed so much loneliness that I had to do something. I had bought the Cradle of Filth “Nymphetamine” CD at the time and that was powerful in terms of sexual magick. Many of the songs, including the title track, were reminiscent of Poe and his writings of obsessive love. I got my friend’s permission to quote the passage in my journal, and included a passage from the title track that I was sure would cheer him. His response touched my heart.

He eventually formed a strong relationship with the new woman, who is close friend of mine. After some outside difficulties, their love is strong and they are planning to move in together with her children and their pets. It will be a large house indeed, filled with love.

I won’t take credit for this outcome, but I like to think the Divine guided him toward his happy ending.

And the other instance of online sexual magick involved my last love. I also met him through my online journal and we began an e-mail correspondence that eventually led to IMs. I sensed something dark within him that I wanted to heal. He had healed me with a response to a post I had written about my father who had died over twenty-five years ago, and I wanted to do the same for him.

One day we were chatting about peace, joy and love. It was so touching that I actually felt strong arms around me, though no one else was in the room. I reported that to him, and he told me that he was holding me close to him. At that moment, I felt safe, secure and loved. And I also felt desire build within.

I then described a loving, erotic encounter that built to a powerful climax that left me shaking and in tears. It provoked a powerful reaction from him that he responded in kind and then afterward thanked me for loving him. We then began a passionate relationship that had more than its fair share of strife, largely from miscommunication. I was head over heels. I think he felt the same, though there was so much going on within his world. We broke up when I found he was carrying on similar communications with other women. I don’t feel the anger toward him anymore, but I don’t think I can love anybody with that intensity again.

I find that men are drawn to me because of something missing from their lives. I encourage them along and sometimes become sexually involved with them. They find what was missing and move on, more often leaving me bewildered and hurt. These feelings are something I am working to resolve within myself. I’m now glad, at least that I know what they are. I would often go for weeks wondering if I had done something wrong to make them leave. But maybe it’s time for us to part, to move on to other things.

Sexual magick just isn’t the act of sex itself. It’s a total giving of the self to work for the good of all. Hurt feelings can’t really be avoided, but constant communication is needed between the partners so that they can be healed before leading to deep-seated resentment. And the understanding that you work with the divine when engaging in sexual magick. When that coupling is over, this will always become a part of you and the Divine. This is why I believe in working with those I share a deep sense of caring and love when it comes to sexual magick. When the Divine becomes involved, I believe we are obliged to share respect with our partners and with Them.

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author bio:

Lisa Hibbard (Paganmaid) has been a practicing Witch for over five years, practicing eclectic Witchcraft and honoring many deities as she finds the one meant for her. Other than this quest, she is a budding writer, keeping two online blogs on LiveJournal:

http://www.livejournal.com/users/paganmaid
and
http://www.livejournal.com/users/paganmaid_2

She is also the mother of a bright and beautiful daughter and a cat, and lives in the Chicago area. Inquiries may be addressed to:

paganmaid163@yahoo.com

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