Coming Out of The Psychic Closet

October, 2018

Are You Afraid to Share Your Experiences with Others?

It is certainly encouraging that modern society is beginning to allow people to come out of their unique closets of personal truth and be accepted for who they are. 

Those people are finding the courage to reveal the true nature of their individual life choices and experiences. But what if you don’t understand the nature of your life experiences and don’t remember making choices to be psychic? How do you share such a thing with your friends and family? Will they reject you, laugh at you, or call you ‘crazy’ and force you back to the safety of your secret closet? And if so, how long might you remain alone there until you try again?

We asked medium and mentor, Sheri Engler, author of The Pearls of Wisdom: A Fairytale Guide to Life’s Magic Secrets For All Ages for advice to help one cope with burgeoning psychic skills, while finding balance between personal and social realities. She says, “It is important to first identify what your fears actually are. Then simply replace them with something more comfortable.” 

Here are a few typical questions and fears with some possible solutions to help get you started:

Does using the word “psychic” conjure foolish images of fortune tellers with crystal balls; spiritualists raising tables in shadowy séances; greedy scammers on psychic hotlines; or even new age, “airy-fairy” wannabe’s? —If so, consider using other words such as “intuition” or “high sensitivity to energies”. Try enlisting support from others by confiding that you are experiencing “metaphysical events” that you do not yet fully understand yourself. Ignite their interest and compassion, as opposed to judgment, by researching together the many resources online. Treat it as light and fun, and it will likely be less fear-provoking for all concerned. It is important to avoid trying to prove anything to anyone, as that quickly develops into a negative debate instead of the positive support you are seeking.

If you were to accept that you do indeed have “psychic ability”, could it suddenly take you over or invite dark energies? —The short answer is “No”. The longer answer is that having a fear of anything is the surest way to attract that exact thing to you. So don’t. Know that you have complete control over your own mind and your own personal space. You have a sovereign right to declare your space to be free of all negativity. It is as simple as that. Consider this… by the act of driving your car down the road, are you risking that your vehicle may suddenly take over your ability to control it?—Or could driving be construed as an invitation for someone to crash into you?… Of course not. You simply drive safely and go about your business, right? 

What about the reaction your religious acquaintances or your partner might have once you reveal your “psychic self”? Might they reject you? —It needs to be said here that not all relationships are supportive to one’s own growth. Inner and outer change and expansion are opportunities to houseclean not only your own belief systems but those of others as well. True love will accept you as you are. This may be a providential litmus test for your highest good. If you stick to the rule of “keep what serves and leave what hurts,” you will rarely if ever go wrong.

Ms. Engler advises those who are having unexplainable experiences to “Be calm and go with the flow. Don’t be afraid to discover who you are, but use discernment when choosing with whom you wish to share your exciting journey. Frequently, you’ll find that they are grateful to you for coming out of your psychic closet, because it offers them courage to come out of their own! This increase in energetic awareness is happening on a massive scale. Statistically speaking, it is more unusual to not have had some sort of psychic experiences than it is to have them. Survey your friends and see for yourself.

The truth is we are all born into this world as psychic beings. This heightened sensory ability is greatly revered in indigenous cultures. Modern society, however, begins at childhood to systematically shame away this basic component of our natural birthright to the extent that we have forgotten that the “supernatural” is natural and the “paranormal” is normal.

Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with you—in fact, there is something very right with you. You are just as you were born to be, so be who you are.


About the Author:

Sheri D. Engler is the author/illustrator of The Pearls of Wisdom: A Fairy Tale Guide to Life’s Magic Secrets for All Ages(www.ThePearlsOfWisdomBook .com). She is an experienced mentor, medium, and metaphysicist with a background in psychology, counseling and research. She received a BA in Clinical Psychology at San Francisco State University.

The Spiralled Edge

December, 2015

Spiralled Edge: The Face of Fear

We are being asked and told too many times in life right now to be afraid. Afraid of other people, afraid of our governments, afraid of religions, afraid of doctors striking, afraid of… well, everything. And those fears keep us from questioning the validity of what we are being told is truth. They keep us from realising who or what is an enemy and who isn’t.

Fear of being in a car accident keeps some people from driving, others it helps them to drive with greater awareness of potential dangers and hazards around them.

Fear of being attacked keeps some people from leaving their home, others it helps them to be more aware of their surroundings, and of the need to keep from going in to some situations.

Fear, I know, is a tool that I can use to keep me safe as I go through life. As a tool though I must make sure that I am using it and that it is not controlling me, or being used to control me.




Fear is what causes people to lash out in anger, or freezes them into non-action. Fear makes us hate others who are different: different race, different religion, different economic background, or different nationality. Fears create enemies.

Every day, I can make a choice to allow my life and my actions to be controlled by fears, or I can choose to use fear as a helpful tool in keeping me safe from harm.

I choose to not live in fear. I choose to not be afraid of Others. I choose to not be controlled by fear.

Recently, I did some shamanic healing work to meet an inner fear. My Sacred Garden is a place within the Otherworlds where I go to study, to meet with Guides, to do healing work, and to ask questions. Here, I stated my desire to meet with a fear which was holding me back in life.

I was taken to an old, dark foreboding house. Inside, it was equally as dark and damp and I was led into the middle of a room. From the corners and between the cracks in the walls came hundreds of tiny spiders. Now, I am not as a rule afraid of creepy crawlies, but even I was a bit taken aback by the sheer number that I saw coming towards me.

All of those tiny spiders came together to create a single human-like creature. Each of those spiders represented a tiny little fear that I held. Individually they were fairly insubstantial and could be easily dealt with. Together though… together, they created a monster. When I would think about facing my inner fears, I didn’t see the hundreds of tiny fears, I saw a huge insurmountable Fear. By looking at the individual fears however in this shamanic healing work, I have discovered that they really aren’t so big or so scary.

And because these internal fears aren’t so scary any more, the outer world isn’t quite so scary either.

What fears within are holding you back?

Image credit: 1971 Walt Kelly, Pogo comic strip