Musings of a Massachusetts Witch

April, 2013

Chance, Work or Choice?


No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance.

No one stays in love by chance, it is by work.

And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.


The above was one of those photo statuses on facebook that I encountered recently and while I understand the sentiment is meant to be inspiring I find that it does just the opposite for me. It elicits a feeling of disempowerment within me that I just will not accept. It seems to embrace the idea that there are things in my life experience that I have no control over … that life sometimes is random. And I couldn’t disagree more.


Let me explain my point of view by starting with the idea of choice.


A choice is a selection or a decision. It is the mental or physical act that an individual being does after consideration of the options presented to them. You and I make choices each and every moment of our life. Some of these decisions are obvious such as what clothes to wear in the morning, and others are perhaps so subtle or habitual we don’t even consider them, like what route we take to work, and sometimes we may even feel that our decisions are no longer choices as we have relabel them as ‘responsibilities’ or ‘obligations’. But they are choices. We have the option of not making that decision or fulfilling that expectation. It is our choice.


I realize that many people may perceive falling in love as an involuntary event that it is something they didn’t consider then choose however I believe that we all have the choice to fall in love or not but many of us already made the decision prior to it occurring or manifesting as it does. You see, it is my belief that we attract people into our lives that we resonate with on a spiritual or vibrational level. The individuals we love are those that we attracted. Some of these individuals will be people we love and some of them are people we will be in love with. Yes, I differentiate the two. I will agree that there are times that it may appear that we fall in love with individuals randomly but I believe this is because it is our higher consciousness or our Higher Self that orchestrated the meeting so that the lower self or more denser more physical self or ego might perceive the experience as mysterious or coincidental. This concept also can be applied to synchronicity.


So this brings us to the idea of coincidence or chance. Personally, I do not believe in chance, coincidence, randomness, accidents, luck or mistakes. I believe we create what we experience. Just as we attract into our life the people we meet I also believe that we attract the events we experience. Sometimes this is done by deliberately focusing on what we desire or want and sometimes it is done by focusing on that which we de not desire or want this is because as we focus on this particular thing, person or situation we add our emotional energy or Will into it. It is as we do this that we will begin to witness the manifestation of that which we are focusing on. That is how events occur. And again I stress that it is possible that this happen unintentionally … we may open ourselves up to other individual’s desires and not be consciously aware of this which then can appear to be a coincidence or an accident. I believe if we are aware of our True Will we would be able to avoid manifesting things we truly do not desire to experience. This is the power of magick.


So what about work? Work is defined as an activity in which one exerts effort or strength to overcome obstacles and achieve a result. I believe it is possible to achieve a result without exerting strength or overcoming difficulties that impede the forward progress. Any circumstance that an individual may perceive as an obstacle I perceive as an opportunity and in relationships whether they are romantic or platonic present many opportunities for our individual growth as well as growth within the relationship. When two beings meet on the physical plane and meld their personal energy signatures they give birth to a new vibration which can aid in the expansion of each individual if they allow it to occur. This is manifested through compromise. There need not be resistance.


Let’s talk about love. What is this feeling or vibration that we perceive as love? If we look up the definition we find that love is described as an intense or strong feeling of deep affection, tenderness and devotion originating from emotional, spiritual or energetic bonds. It can sometimes include sexual desire, being ‘in love’ but isn’t always determined by this as we can have these same feelings without that ‘loving’. Our natural state of being as non-physical vibrational or spiritual beings is love. It is the highest vibrational frequency there is. It is pure. It is unconditional. It is divine. It is only in taking on a physical form as we did when we chose to manifest on this physical plane of existence that we call Earth are we then able to experience the contrast between love and fear. These experiences in turn expand the Universe. This is our purpose for living.


So instead of saying:


No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance.

No one stays in love by chance, it is by work.

And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.


I would counter:


Everyone one falls in love, stays in love and falls out of love by choice; it is not by chance or work.