Finding Your Own Way

June, 2018

Chapter 3



The hardest lesson that we need to earn as human beings is acceptance. It is not a vague feeling of goodwill, nor a sign of weakness and vacillation. It is a powerful tool for expanding up our intuition and creativity. It gives us new insights and new options in many situations. It allows us to take a realistic and honest look at situations in our homes and at work and at many social events.

Where once we may have been victims of our own emotions and impulses, we begin to gain the ability to take control of situations around us. It is the key to unlocking a positive future.

As we learn to accept others without judgment, we begin to remove the emotional blockages to the exploration of our own inner worlds.

We learn to see ourselves honestly and without self-criticism. We can then begin to see, and deal with, our own hidden motivations and develop true spontaneity. To encourage acceptance, we need to release ourselves from our need for certainty. Remember, it is inconceivable, that we are always right, and others are always wrong. This basic truth is a good starting point.

I cannot emphasize enough how important a force like acceptance will become in our lives.

It is a key element in self-healing. It is essential for any true learning and personal development.

It is best to use a comfortable chair at this stage, to lessen the likelihood of falling asleep.

Again, just read the text and muse over the images. Then, allow the images and ideas to flow through your mind unchallenged, both during and after the deep relaxation technique.

If you wish, you can now begin to add some visualization techniques.

If your eyes open, just allow them to close again after a few moments.

As you breathe in, imagine a stream of golden light flowing down into your body from above.

As you breathe out, imagine it flowing out from your torso and forming a golden ball around you.

Repeat this a few times and return to your musings.

You may repeat the sequence a few times if you wish.

Allow yourself time to return to normal consciousness before driving or operating any machinery.

A drink and a snack are a good way to return fully to normal waking consciousness.

Be aware that time distortion often occurs during meditations. An hour may pass in what feels like a few moments, or time may seem to stretch, and a short session may seem to last much longer.

This section will ease your journey into later, more advanced, meditations.

Try not to rush ahead or work to any targets. The journey is what counts. Every single moment is what matters most. This is your journey and will unfold in your own unique way. You will discover a wisdom and guidance that will benefit you for your whole life as you begin to discover your own inner resources.


Like a suit of armor,

Polished gold that gleams and sparkles in the light.

That Blessed Shield that keeps our ego safe.

No niggling doubts disturb us in the night.

No second thoughts to make our conscience chafe.

The Joy of never being wrong,

Those great eternal truths that beam down from above.

Our principles that keep us different from the milling throng.

When we love Certainty,

Its charms can keep us safe from any other love.

We feel misunderstood by those who do not truly Know.

Their dreadful ignorance and anarchy surround us every day.

If only we could set them on the path they need to go.

If only they could understand the things we try to say,

Then we could let them bask in our enlightened glow.

But then,

How can I teach the sparrow how to fly?

They seemed to know just what to do,

Before I ever had a chance to teach them how.

I often watch in envy as they dance and weave above us in the evening sky.

The crimson setting sun, that lights their antics, lights the furrows on my brow.

Streaking red and gold across the purple hills and dark green fields,

Its rainbow glory blinds my eyes and lets me see,

This world was doing fine before there ever was a Me.



Once we start to meditate, we open a doorway to our unconscious thoughts and feelings. This may not always be a comfortable experience. Take things slowly. If you become unhappy with the experience stop and open your eyes. If you feel tearful for no apparent reason, do not worry. It is simply a release of energy. But if you find yourself becoming moody or unhappy, – just take a break for a few days. This will give you time to assimilate whatever is being released from your unconscious mind. This is a very personal journey, and a lot of the images that will flow into your mind may seem strange at first, – but they will tend to have a relevance to your life which will become clear in time.

Many of the images may even seem religious. This is because they are a part of our human history and have been experienced and interpreted by many people over the ages. It is your own personal reaction to the images that count. You will come across them in the guided meditations also. Again, this is because we all share many of these ancient images as part of our common heritage. As you learn to deal with these ancient images, you will come to realize that they can release energy into our lives. This is not a religious exercise. Meditation on these symbols will allow us to tap into skills and abilities and attributes that are dormant in our minds, – regardless of whether we are atheists, agnostics or members of any of the mainstream religions. Our journey is about finding balance in our lives between our inner and outer needs but doing it in our own unique way.



About the Author:

Patrick W Kavanagh, Featuring the inspirational art of Bill Oliver

Writer, poet, Patrick W Kavanagh was born in Dublin and now lives and works in Lincolnshire in a small rural town. Patrick became fascinated by the strange abilities of the human mind from watching his mother give psychic readings using tea-leaves and playing cards. With a lifelong interest in metaphysics and parapsychology, he has given tarot and spirit readings for over 40 years. He travels to many events with his wife Tina, exploring the power of shamanic drumming to heal, and induce therapeutic trance states. They also hold a regular drumming circle in the picturesque Lincolnshire Wolds.

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Finding Your Own Way: Personal Meditations for Mastery and Self-knowledge.


Distant Shores

From the Muse

Tink About it

June, 2015

Visualisation, Meditation and Journeying

One of the first things that caught my attention when I started reading about paganism long ago was the use of visualisation. I recognised something I had been doing all along. In daydreams I escaped reality by imagining beautiful landscapes, stuff I wanted, people I liked. I tried to ‘see’ every little detail in my mind’s eye. books, tapes and later workshops helped me to develop this skill even better. I loved to learn how to use all my senses. I didn’t only see the forest… I noticed the distinct smell of it after a rain shower, touched a tree, heard birds singing… That sounds as if it is very easy, but it really isn’t. Well, it is and it isn’t! I still have difficulty with taste, never really seem to manage that, but I keep trying! It’s an ongoing learning process and needs a lot of time just doing it. Over time you can train yourself and get better at it. Unfortunately it fades away when I haven’t practised it for a while, so it definitely needs maintenance.

Meditation has nothing and everything to do with visualisation. It can be of great help, but you can also have a great meditation without visualising anything. To me meditation is all about relaxing and letting go. I don’t believe in clearing your mind completely. Perhaps monks in a monastery in Tibet can do that after a lifetime of training, but I can’t! The harder I try to ignore thoughts or sounds around me, the bigger they get. Instead I try to simply observe and then let go of what comes to my mind.

There are many ways to meditate. It’s important to find a way (or more) that works best for you. Guided meditations are a great way to get acquainted with meditation, but are still very suitable if you are more experienced. You can use pre-recorded ones, record your own voice or ask someone to read it live. I use guided meditation if I want to meditate with a specific goal. For relaxation and stress-reduction I often use music, varying from special meditation music to soft-jazz or easy-listening depending on my mood. Sometimes I just meditate in silence.

There are more active ways of meditation too: dance meditation, walking meditations, etc. Most of those are too tiring for me, but I know several people that love to do it. When I walk in nature it can become a walking meditation though, that happens sometimes and I love it.

There are several resources to help you with your meditations. If you struggle to find the best position to sit still for a while, there are several mediation seats available: a cushion, bench, stool… I use a chair called Little Buddha, that helps me sit straight but relaxed. And of course in our time of mobile communication there are several apps. If you take a look in Google Play or App Store, there are many apps to choose from. The ones I use most are: Insight Timer, Headspace, and Calm. The last one is by, a website where you can take a break while working on your computer.

Last year I did a 3 month course in MBCT, Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy. In some ways mindfulness converges with what I learned about meditation, but at quite some area’s it gave me new insights and techniques. Mindfulness has great exercises to live in the here and now, to focus on one particular subject or object. It helps reduce stress and worrying in general. MBCT was designed specifically to help people who suffer from depression. I first read about it in ‘Sane New World’, a fabulous book by comedian and health-campaigner Ruby Wax. She has her own periods of depression and describes the struggle with her trademark wit but without ridiculing the serious matter. She also has a Masters degree from Oxford in MBCT. The book ánd MBCT are interesting to all of us, not only when you suffer from depression. Mindfulness works and I can recommend it to everyone.

When I was part of a little group in apprenticeship with Phyllis Curott, she taught us shamanic journeying. She had learned it directly from Michael Harner, an anthropologist and founder of the Foundation for Shamanic Studies. He lived and worked with indigenous peoples that taught him the technique. The website Shaman’s Path explains shamanic journeying like this: “An element of the sacred traditions of peoples from every inhabited land, journeying is a powerful meditative state. It takes us into a very special level of consciousness that helps us work more deeply with intuitive and spiritual guidance. Prolonged hypnotic drumming is used to promote relaxation and the experience of a trance-like visionary awareness.” It is different from meditation, but it also has common ground. I often use journeying when I want to visit my ancestors to learn or ask for guidance, but there are many more possible applications. A very helpful book is ‘Shamanic Journeying: A Beginner’s Guide’ by Sandra Ingerman. In the group we had one person that did the drumming. At home I have cd’s with drumming or the app Shamanic Drumming, but I’m also learning to drum for myself and journey at the same time. That can be quite a challenge but very rewarding if it succeeds.



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