Tarot with Lady Saoirse Litha 2023

 

 

Bright Blessings!

In the last article, I had some tips for reading tarot, and how talent is required. No matter how much you read and how many classes you take, if you are not intuitive, doing psychic readings is not something you will excel at. So that brings us to a question then.

How do you get a tarot reading from somebody else?

You would think all you had to do is pick a random reader, then pay them, and everything else would be perfect. Sometimes, it works out that way, but sometimes it doesn’t. There are a lot of reasons that can happen, one of which is that you found a lousy reader or even one who just can’t communicate with you well. Some people can’t stand a blunt reader and others WANT a blunt reader who will not sugarcoat. Other than reading reviews and hearing from people who you know and trust about a reader’s style and whether they would be a good reader for you, what can you do to find out if a reader is one who you want to go to?

If you have asked around and learned all you can about a reader, and feel they are a good match for you, unfortunately, they still might not be. Don’t worry though. The time when readers were difficult to find has passed. Now we have a whole online world where we can find readers, and if there is no reader nearby who you can go see in person, you can get an online reading or get a phone reading. Today, we have something even better though- we have video chats where your reader can show you every card and you can see their beautiful face during the whole reading. All in the comfort of your own home! I have even given people video chat readings while they sat in their car on their breaks, and that means that when you are traveling, you can get a reading from anywhere in the world!

So the first time you have a reading with a reader who you have never gotten a reading from before, there are several things you can do and after this first reading, you can decide if you want them to the somebody who you go back to again.

1. 1. Book the shortest, least expensive reading possible- That will give you a good sample of how they read and how they give advice. If you are not happy with the reader, wasting time and money on a long reading will make you mad and make them nervous. Not every reader who you don’t prefer is a bad reader, but if you book a big long reading and end up disliking the reading, you will be very unhappy spending money on them that you could have spent with a reader you like better.
   2. Go when you are not in crisis- Screen your readers when you are not upset or in distress. Manipulative charlatans thrive on hysterical clients because they can talk people into nearly anything if they get a hold of their emotions. Some readers will try to sell you spells or services to “make it better” and that’s not going to help you. Instead, they will be helping themselves to your money and you will find yourself with empty pockets before you know it. Screen multiple readers for short readings until you find one or multiple readers who you trust to advise you when times do turn tough.
   3. Keep the reading short and sweet- Some people go in and want to spend all day with a reader making them the center of attention. The reader is not your best friend or parent. They are business-people, and if they see you are wanting to attach to their hip, if they are unethical, they will let you, and they will drain your bank account. Chat for about five minutes or less while you are paying, do the reading, and don’t linger too long afterwards. You have things to do you’re your day besides seeing somebody for advice.
   4. Ask serious questions and listen- Don’t waste your time asking stupid crap like “There was this boy I knew in second grade (thirty years ago). I liked him. Did he like me?” Some readers flat out refuse to read about other people in your reading, but others will happily do so. Do you really want to waste your money asking irrelevant things? If you want to ask a question to test the readers’ psychic abilities, I don’t blame you, but asking an irrelevant question wastes both of your time. I will never forget the rich trophy wife who had me do a psychic reading all about how to get her dog to pee in a certain section of the yard…
   5. Don’t talk over the reader- Interrupting people in general is rude but if you want your reader to advise you, then let them talk. If you accidentally blurt something out because you are excited, we have all done it, just try not to. You are paying them to give you information, and they ought to earn that money. If you feel something is inaccurate, don’t argue. Let them speak. Remember, this is a new reader you have paid the minimum to so you can find out if you think they are accurate and a good reader for you. If all they do is talk, but give no decent information, let them. You will know not to pay for them to read for you again.
   6. Chat with them a little before or after the reading- Going to a reader is not the social event of the century, but if this is somebody you are going to see often, it’s somebody who you should be comfortable with. Not everybody talks a lot, and if that’s not your thing, I get it. If you do make small talk in general, however, chatting for a few minutes is a normal part of business with somebody who you are going to go see often, so ask them how they are.
   7. Don’t tell your life story- Almost all of us love to talk about ourselves, and we all think our lives are fascinating, but truthfully, for the most part, they are not. Not to a businessperson who has a job to do. Other people want to treat a tarot reading like a counseling session they would get from a psychological therapist. While spiritual counseling is a part of what a lot of tarot readers do, your reader is not your doctor. Also- if you give them too much personal information, an unethical reader might use that to do what is called cold reading and nobody has to be psychic to do that. Cold readers make informed guesses based on dress style, body language, behaviors, and background information you give them. They are master salespeople and can manipulate almost anybody. Don’t fall into a trap they set.
   8. Find out about them- If your reader is a 32 year old housewife that grew up rich, who has never held a job and has no kids, they might not be the best person to ask about what to do with your 22 year old kid who won’t move out while you work three jobs. If your reader belongs to an anti-gay organization, and you just happen to be gay, you are better off finding another reader. If they have a background of forging checks, do you really want to give them your credit card information? If they deal crack out of the house, do you want to be sitting there getting a reading when the cops bust in? I have always had my professional readings done out of psychic and pagan shops, so I have not had to deal with seedy readers- but there are a lot of good readers who do business out of their own homes. Check out who these individuals are before you get involved to save yourself headaches.

Getting a reading should be something that helps you find answers and makes you feel good. It should not be a visit to somebody who lies and manipulates and takes your money from you. Be patient while you are finding readers you trust. You might get lucky and find the reader you stay with for life when you get your very first reading, and you might have to try some more people out before you settle on a reader. Take your time and find the right readers. It’s worth it.

Until next time, Blessed Be!

 

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About the Author:

Saoirse is a practicing witch, and initiated Wiccan of an Eclectic Tradition.

A recovered Catholic, she was raised to believe in heaven and hell, that there is only one god, and only one way to believe. As she approached her late 20’s, little things started to show her this was all wrong. She was most inspired by the saying “God is too big to fit into one religion” and after a heated exchange with the then associate pastor of the last Xtian church she attended, she finally realized she was in no way Xtian, and decided to move on to see where she could find her spiritual home.

Her homecoming to her Path was after many years of being called to The Old Ways and the Goddess, and happened in Phoenix, Arizona. She really did rise from her own ashes!

Upon returning to Ohio, she thought Chaos Magic was the answer, and soon discovered it was actually Wicca. She was blessed with a marvelous mentor, Lord Shadow, and started a Magical Discussion Group at local Metaphysical Shop Fly By Night. The group was later dubbed A Gathering of Paths. For a few years, this group met, discussed, did rituals, fellowship, and volunteering together, and even marched as a Pagan group with members of other groups at the local gay Pride Parade for eight years.

All the while, she continued studying with her mentor, Lord Shadow, and she became a Third Degree High priestess in 2022. She belongs to the Black Dragon Clan.