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Forgiveness is the end result of a deeply emotive process of coming back from the devastation of trauma and betrayal and into strength once again.\u00a0 You\u2019ll understand anger\u2019s profound connection to real forgiveness and you\u2019ll understand the true definition of mercy: mercy can only arise from a position of strength that gives you the ability to harm, tempered by the ability to control your impulses and choose not to.<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n -Karla McLaren from \u201cThe Language of Emotions\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n *The following is an excerpt from the book\u00a0<\/span><\/span>\u201cDreaming of Cupcakes: A Food Addict\u2019s Shamanic Journey into Healing:\u201d<\/u><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Harry Uhane Jim is a Kahuna, healer, and teacher. He is the author of the book, \u201cWise Secrets of Aloha.\u201d He was born and raised on the island of Kauai in Hawaii.\u00a0 In 2015, I traveled to the Big Island in Hawaii to take a Group Ho\u2019oponopono workshop with him and I interviewed him on the\u00a0<\/span><\/span>\u201cGoing Shamanic\u201d radio show<\/u><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a>.\u00a0 He says \u201cthere is only one type of forgiveness: now or later.\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n The course description from\u00a0<\/span><\/span>his website<\/u><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a>\u00a0reads as follows: \u201cThe Hawaiian culture has concepts and skill sets that co-create balance and abundance; this is called Ho\u2019oponopono. It\u2019s about forgotten ways of thinking and feeling. At its root, Ho\u2019oponopono is a technology of forgiveness and allows us to release that which keeps us feeling stuck in negative thoughts and patterning. The Hawaiian time-evolved practice of managing trauma and transforming chaotic patterns into shapes and vistas of order and profound peace is presented in an interactive and trance breaking experience. This workshop is dedicated to setting aside focus skills based on pain, shame, and guilt, while embracing a skill set to bring focus skills of joy and presence.\u00a0 The human experience can take negative energy and turn it into positive forms. We can embrace the paradox and change the current of chaotic patterns.\u00a0 Stop negotiating life and start navigating!\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n One thing that Uncle Harry says is that we practice ho\u2019oponopono to maintain our sovereignty.\u00a0 If we are full of attachments and resentments to others based in the past, we are not really free.\u00a0\u00a0 We think we are punishing the \u201coffenders\u201d but really, we are punishing ourselves indefinitely by not forgiving and letting go.\u00a0 Forgiveness frees us from the ties that bind us and keep us from moving forward.\u00a0 This goes back to self-concepts based in how others see us.\u00a0 These unforgivenesses keep us from seeing ourselves the way we really are.\u00a0 Uncle Harry says in the interview: \u201cthe way to get to grace is to eliminate shame in the space.\u201d\u00a0 In Hawaii, hands-on healing via appropriate touch is called lomilomi and it is designed to support the process of ho\u2019oponopono body, mind, heart, and spirit.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Most of us have experienced trauma in some form or another.\u00a0 This is the legacy we are born into, in part.\u00a0 We are also born into the light of our ancestors.\u00a0 So again, we have a choice which one we feed.\u00a0 In my experience, the original trauma itself is not what causes the most harm in the long run.\u00a0 What causes the harm is really the way we \u201chold\u201d and \u201cfeed\u201d the trauma within us.\u00a0As we celebrate our ancestors this fall season, may we honour them by completing the healing work they were unable to. And we are never alone in this work; they are always there to help us if we ask. May we set future generations free.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n *NB: The author is Canadian and therefore, Canadian spelling is used in this piece.<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n ***<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n About the Author:<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/strong> <\/b><\/p>\n <\/p>\n INSERT PIC 1<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Jennifer Engr\u00e1cio<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/strong> has been a student of shamanism since 2005. Jennifer is a certified teacher who has worked with children in many different education settings since 2001. She is a certified shamanic coach, reiki master, and lomilomi practitioner; in addition, she runs Spiral Dance Shamanics<\/a>. Originally from Vancouver, Canada, she now lives in Calgary, Canada with her life partner. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Engr\u00e1cio participated in self-publishing three books that are now available: <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n \u201cThe Magic Circle: Shamanic Ceremonies for the Child and the Child Within\u201d <\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n \u201cWomen\u2019s Power Stories: Honouring the Feminine Principle of Life\u201d <\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n \u201cDreaming of Cupcakes: A Food Addict\u2019s Shamanic Journey into Healing<\/span><\/span><\/em>\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/paganpages.org\/emagazine\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/jen-engracio1.png\")
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