{"id":28534,"date":"2023-06-21T01:10:04","date_gmt":"2023-06-21T05:10:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/paganpages.org\/emagazine\/?p=28534"},"modified":"2023-06-20T21:17:32","modified_gmt":"2023-06-21T01:17:32","slug":"advice-magic-myrtle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/paganpages.org\/emagazine\/2023\/06\/21\/advice-magic-myrtle\/","title":{"rendered":"Magic Myrtle"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hello Myrtle! I’m middle aged and have \u201cstarted again” multiple times. I’m not too bad at it, but I’m getting tired of changes if I am honest. I understand that times change and I will get left behind if I don’t roll with the changes, but this time, I really don’t feel like it. I have settled comfortably into a new career I’m good at…but the job is changing again in such a way I feel pushed to literally get another degree because I can tell my skills need sharpened. I am good at what I do, but I am going to have to learn more so I am not replaced, but my gods, I am tired after work. I can’t retire yet, so I have to keep working. I am having trouble getting started , Myrtle and I need an attitude adjustment please! What can you tell me? Thank you! <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\u2013 Tired Older Career Woman <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

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\u201cThe birds they sang a<\/em>t the break of day:<\/em>
\n\u2018Start again,\u2019 <\/em>I heard them say.\u201d<\/em>
\n\u2013 Leonard Cohen <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

T.O.C.W.,<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

We start every day anew. Getting out of bed in the morning can be harder as we get older, but starting again<\/em> isn\u2019t really the hard part by itself. At any age, though, sustaining forward movement is a lot easier when you\u2019re heading towards something that you actually want. <\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I suspect that starting again is especially hard for you this time because what lies ahead on that path isn\u2019t<\/em> what you want. It sounds as though, like many people, you may be overworked and underpaid; perhaps the emotional fulfillment you used to get from your job is gone. But you\u2019re missing something<\/em>. If you\u2019re not excited by the idea of developing your skills in the field you\u2019re in, it could be that there\u2019s just a lack of interest in continuing with it. Nor is it easy to learn and keep a good attitude if you\u2019re only doing so to avoid being laid off; but if you don\u2019t have forward motion, you may also feel that you\u2019ve stalled out. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Change is a constant in this world, whether we like it or not. Much like the dawn, it sounds like these changes in your career are unavoidable. But sometimes a change is just what you need. You have a finite amount of energy, and it sounds like you\u2019ve hit your limit. Consider your skill set and whether there are other places it could be used \u2013 maybe at a new company, or a related field of work. You could benefit from a lateral move, into another position within your organization, or a similar position at a different organization. Sometimes a move like this can come with better hours or better pay, too! <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a short ritual for starting again when you\u2019re facing unavoidable change; though difficult and sometimes unwanted, it\u2019s just what we must do. This ritual can be done over the course of three separate days, which can be spaced out however you like during the period of transition.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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A Ritual of Starting Again<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

What you need:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n