Spiralled Edges – Learning to Honour Yourself
As we go through life, how often do we do things not because they honour who we are, but because we think it is what is expected of us?
This year, things came together in such a way that I had the opportunity to spend Christmas and Boxing Day on my own. My younger children spent the holiday with their father, giving me the opportunity to choose for myself what I wanted to do, for me, over the holidays. I had options, plenty of friends and extended family who would have offered me a place to go so that I would not be alone.
I decided to do things differently though, this year. I decided to honour my need for silence and solitude. I decided to spend the Christmas holiday, Christmas Eve until Boxing Day, alone.
And while I had a few friends asking me – is this what you want to do? When I explained how much I was looking forward to this time alone they supported me in it. In fact, some were actually envious of how I was using this time to rebirth my soul in quiet contemplation.
Have I accomplished anything over these few days? No. On the other hand, I didn’t set out to use this time for being productive in a tangible sense. This has been my time to honour my needs, a time to just be without doing.
Today, I sit and I consider what I have gained through this time alone. I am certainly more relaxed. I feel ready to face the world once again. In a short hour, I will be getting into the car to pick up the boys, and will be stopping at the grocery store on the way home to pick up things for our dinner tonight and tomorrow. While this has been a time of spiritual contemplation, I cannot forget the mundane chores and details of being alive. Dishes still need cleaned, clothes still need washed, and kids still need fed.
This coming week, I will be preparing for the upcoming year. 2015 has been a year of learning to honour myself. 2016 will be a year of reaching out to others.
As a first step, I created Sacred Visions a service with a purpose of helping women to create their own possibilities. Since then I have been holding a monthly Cone of Healing Share with women around the world where all women are invited to share their own healing power, and to take what healing they need for themselves.
In 2016, I will be taking another new step and opening my home to small groups of women for monthly healing shares, where we will share our wisdom for personal healing. Or, maybe we’ll just spend a few hours together with no tangible goal or purpose.
In 2016 as well, I will continue to honour myself as a woman, as a mother, as a healer, as a human being. And, as always, I will continue to share my steps and missteps with others along the way.
However you are choosing to honour yourself, I wish you a healthy and happy 2016.