Rev. Alicia L. Folberth November, 2008

Dear Reader,

Welcome to ‘It’s In the Cards’ for http://www.PaganPages.org. At one time this column appeared in Finer Things Magazine in New Haven, CT, and I am very pleased to be writing my column again; this time for the Pagan Community.

Every month, I will do a tarot reading for one person who I chose for this column. Also, by writing me, you will have a chance for a free tarot 10 minute reading on the phone. If you would like to contact me about purchasing a reading, please visit my web site at http://www.SubRosaMagick.com or white me at SubRosaMagick@aol.com.

Since I first began reading for the public 13 years ago, I found that I fell in love with being able to help people in their personal lives and on their path as a spiritual counselor. The cards, I have found, often tell us what we need to know, and not necessarily what we want to know. They provide a way for me to see deeper into the heart of an issue and often what magickal advice I also need to give to bring about change.

Even if you aren’t familiar with tarot cards as a form of divination, they also work in the same way other forms do, be it the Runes, I-Ching, oracles or Ogam. The symbols of the tarot speak on many levels, and allow a connection to be created with spirit; opening a doorway for the universe to communicate on a personal level. As an artist as well as a priestess, I acknowledge the power of these symbols, but as a psychic, I use them to “see” more clearly.

Mediumship isn’t something I intentionally practice, but sometimes I do receive messages from spirit or departed loved ones, and if I receive messages I will relay these to you as part of the reading.

This following is the question chosen for this month.

Merry Meet,

My questions is:  Will my education really benefit me and my family or is it a waste of my time as my boss tells it?  Do I have a future?

The first thing you should know is, that yes, indeed, you have a future. Life, however, is what happens when we are making other plans. It struck me that you were born the same year as myself, in 1965, the Year of the Wood Snake. You are highly capable, with a quick mind, and your biggest weakness as a Pieces may be giving your power away to others, perhaps as you seem to be doing with your boss right now. The people who love you in your life will no doubt be the best judges. Whatever trials you may face, you can count on luck to carry you. As I told a friend recently, not trying have never garnered me anything in life, I’ve always gained more by trying anyway, and it may accidentally lead me to something better. I believe this is the key here – make sure you leave yourself open to something better than what your dreams currently are.

I have chosen a layout for you called the Pyramid Spread because it is a complex situation involving a number of people who may influence your decision. It is a ten card layout beginning with four on the bottom as the foundation, then building on top of them with three cards, with two more at the next level with the possible outcome crowning the triangle. I will go over every card and tell you how they relate to your current path, and the patterns that form from them.

These ten cards are:
1. The King of Pentacles (inversed)
2. Queen of Swords (inversed)
3. Two of Swords
4. Queen of Cups
5. Ten of Swords
6. Three of Cups
7. The Empress (3)
8. The Magician (1)
9. Two of Wands
10. King of Wands (inversed)

Your question begins with the King of Pentacles, which is inversed, and represents the question asked, either consciously or subconsciously. It seems much of this is focused around the material, and not in a good way, and in all likelihood, this is how heavy your boss’s impressions are weighing on you now. Looks like to me, that truly, he is not a happy person, and the real issue may be that he doesn’t want to see anyone else succeed, or be happy. Abuse of authority is something he can rationalize. Perhaps you may want to consider finding another job before he becomes more abusive.

Your second card is the Queen of Swords, which is inversed, and represents the root of the matter, and looks deeper into unseen and subconscious. This is something. Or someone else who is holding you back. This is a mature woman who may be bitter, and seem cold and uncaring, who does not know how to give to others. This feels like someone in your past who was a negative influence who affected your self esteem on a deep level, so much so that she is still influencing your decisions now.

Your third card is the Two of Swords. It represents the conscious, literal and practical matters regarding your question. There is a very real need to make a decision here, even if it isn’t the decision you were originally looking for push is coming to shove, because both this card, and the position it is in are very much saying the same thing: make a good logical decision then act!

Your fourth card is the Queen of Cups. It represents the heart of the matter, the emotions and intuitions. The Little Prince said, “It is only with the one can see rightly,” and that seems to be the case here. You need to follow your heart and your dreams – this is coming from a very real need within you. You have a right to be happy.

With these four cards forming the foundation of the reading, there is a message of duality, and of balance throughout it. Balancing the logical and the emotional is the key to making this decision. Only you know what that key is that will turn the lock.

So we now begin the next row of three, to where this situation is leading, in relation to the cards that form the foundation.

Your fifth card is the Ten of Swords. It represents the price that is to be paid. As with all things, there is an exchange to maintain balance. There is an ending here, something that you will have to let go of to move forward that will cost you anguish. It may appear to be a situation where all is lost, but this is a card of hope, because it is always darkest before the dawn.

Your sixth card is the Three of Cups. It represents unhelpful influences in the situation. Don’t let family influences, no matter how special they may be, keep you from your task at hand. I also see this card as the center of the reading – how much the rest of your life revolves your family.

Your seventh card is the Empress. It represents the unexpected. I feel this is a strong powerful woman who will be your ally. She will be the door your key will go to – when she appears follow her advice because she is very wise and worldly. She is more than she appears to be.

So what we have in these three cards signify three very different things, but the challenge of each one will come in succession. If you make it this far, then everything will get easier from this point forward.

Your eighth card is the Magician. Both the card, and its position suggests helpful influences. This is the place where you need to use your will, your own power, to make changes and create the opening you need – turn lead into gold.

Your ninth card is the Two of Wands. It is the suggested action you must take, that which is already in your hands. You need to challenge yourself creatively here.  Moving yourself into a new position that will better serve your needs, even if there is more work involved will suit you. Take time to pause and reflect before you go forward.

These two cards side by side speak of magick and intuition. A little bit of spell work should be called into play at this point.

Your tenth and final card is the King of Wands, which is inversed. This represents the final outcome. This is definitely a card of change, although it is the final outcome – it feels like a riddle. The tenth card is the crown of the reading, marked by a King. This person may actually represent an aspect of yourself rather than a person. Kings themselves can be fire, drive and ambition, especially coupled with the wands. Before taking this final leap, make sure you have looked inside as to what will hold you back.

I was told years ago that the brave die but once, but the meek die a thousand times. I see that it is possible, but you still make take a somewhat different direction than the one originally planned. I say go for it. Where there is a witch, there is a way!

Blessed be!
Rev. Alicia Lyon Folberth

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Administrator October, 2008

Do you find spirituality to be a fleeting feeling?  Feeling spiritual mainly in times of need?  Feeling spiritual when you feel it is the proper time to?  How about when you want or need something?  Or when someone else you feel is spiritual is around?  And, let’s not forget on holidays!

Spirituality is an important part of life and should be felt on a daily basis.  It improves mental and physical health brings us through the bad moments in life and, also, helps us to see and appreciate the good.  Picture it as day or night.  They are beautiful but how much more beautiful are they with the sun’s rays or the moon’s beams caressing your skin & lighting your way.  Spirituality is akin to the sun’s kiss or the moon’s blessings.   A feeling grander with more benefits than any other.

So how do we get out of a spiritual slump or just bring more into our daily lives?

For the beginning of this path we can walk it together.  Let’s start with defining what spirituality is:

1.     What does spirituality mean to you?
2.    When you think of someone who is spiritual what do you see?
3.    What could I do every day to make myself be more spiritual?
I’ll start with my thoughts, but you write your own…

1.    Spirituality to me means walking with the diving.  By divine I not only mean the God and Goddess, but also, the divine elements and with the creatures of the earth.   Being created by the God and Goddess make these all divine.  On that thought being with myself meditating, relaxing, learning about me deeply, also, counts as divine interaction.
2.    When I think of someone who is spiritual I must admit I see a childlike image of a glowing person.  But on a more adult level, I see a woman who stands tall with a gleam of knowledge in her eyes.  Her glow comes from self assurance and self acceptance.  Her back is straight and she stands tall with the divine.
3.    Now I know what I want to achieve and feel, but how do I get it?  Simple, by DOING something about it.  I know I am looking to connect with the divine on a daily basis, so I made a list of things I feel will bring me to my goal.  After looking it over I decide on a simple book.  An Everyday book that I can read chapter by chapter with exercises I feel will enlighten me everyday.  I also decided to read one prayer a day from a prayer book.
Take the time to think of ideas and make your own list.  Think of things you would enjoy doing to make the experience special.

Now set aside time everyday.  Five minutes alone if that is all you have, and work towards being a more spiritual you.

Till our next leg of the journey…

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Hally October, 2008

What are You Telling Yourself?

“I am such an Idiot”; “I can’t believe I stuffed that up. I am so useless” and my favourite “It’s all my fault”. These are examples of some lines that we use when self talking. Not very positive is it? Have you ever stopped to wonder the impact that any of these sentences have on you, your self esteem and how you perceive yourself?

How often do you stop to tell yourself “you are so amazing” or “you are such a beautiful person”. Once a week? Once a month? Or have you ever?

We often get so caught up in what others think of us that we do not stop to look within on how we are projecting ourselves to ourselves. What you think of yourself and treat yourself is what is going to come out in everything you do. There are some that believe loving yourself involves complete self absorption and I am not talking about this. I am talking about appreciating and acknowledging yourself for the person you are today. Not focusing on the faults that seem so plentiful rather focusing on all the fantastic parts that make us unique and magnificent every day simply by being.

Words and language are the most powerful medium in which to communicate. The effect something someone says to has is very powerful and lasting. How often do you focus on something negative someone had said to you rather than a positive that may have followed?

Because we are so busy telling ourselves off for something we haven’t done or achieved rather than acknowledging the fact that several steps were taken in the right direction somehow deems it acceptable for others to do likewise. The irony is that it doesn’t feel very nice. Yet, when given a complement it feels uncomfortable because it is so unfamiliar. So many of us complain because no one says anything positive to us and yet, we don’t even do this for ourselves. We crave validation and really, it starts with looking in the mirror and telling ourselves “you are awesome”.

Every minute of every day there is a conversation happening in our minds. How often do we take note or rather when don’t we? The voice doesn’t always provide us with the right choices or offer us positive re-enforcement as it often works as a voice of protection, of safety and comfort. Consequently, we tell ourselves that we can’t, we shouldn’t, we won’t and often let this guide the decision of our actions, whether this serves us or not.

However with a bit of reprogramming this voice can actually support you as the beautiful person that you are today and provide caution not detriment.

It starts with knowing and believing that what you want and how you want to live our life is for the greater good of yourself and moving towards the best that you can be. Believing that you deserve a life of happiness, fulfillment and success.

This however isn’t enough. When you think about your dreams and what you want to fulfill in your life what do you say to yourself? I can’t; I won’t; I shouldn’t or do you tell yourself I am awesome! I have strength and courage to do anything?!

Each day when you hear your self talk becoming negative, use a different, positive word in replacement. Start with one word and slowly replace a sentence. See the difference this makes to how you view yourself and how you come across.

You know you are fantastic. You just need to tell yourself.

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Administrator May, 2006

I’ve Volunteered to do a Ritual, Now What do I do?

A practical guide to performing public rituals

You feel drawn to volunteer to do public ritual. You volunteer, commit yourself and then…PANIC ATTACK! You’ve never done a public ritual…where do you start? What do you do? That’s what this article will address and discuss.

One thing to point out right away, there is really no “wrong” way to do a ritual. Whatever feels comfortable to you as the leader should be what you do. However, it is good to do enough research that you don’t end up mixing elements that end up being incompatible – with possible nasty consequences.

The first thing to do is to decide what your ritual will focus on. If it is for a Sabbat, research the various aspects of that day. What or who do you feel drawn to? What activities would be appropriate for the event? Will there be children? If so, how can that be taken into account? If you are doing a moon-based ritual, again, research your subject. Look at what each moon means in various cultures, or pick a subject that has to do with the season you are in, or something in your own life that would appeal to others. With some groups it is traditional (although not required) that some sort of “take it home” activity occur. If you are not “crafty” (and not all of us are) pick something easy or choose to do something more intellectual so that what is brought home is not necessarily tangible, but valuable nonetheless.

After figuring out what you want to do, the next step is to secure a site, and figure out when and what time. Get that information locked down and out to the public at least 3-4 weeks before the event so people have time to plan. Notify local lists, make flyers, put it in the paper if possible, get the word out as much as possible. If you are doing a feast afterwards, make sure you note that on the flyers, along with any instructions such as “bring food appropriate to the Sabbat” or “provide your own plates, cutlery and cups”. If needed, recruit helpers/fellow planners as early as possible also. If it is traditional to plan a feast for afterwards, make sure you also decide what you will bring and keep in mind where the ritual will be held so you can make suggestions as to food or drink to those participating in the activities.

Now it is time to start planning your ritual. Sit down and prepare an outline of what you want to do. This is your “recipe” for the rite. After you have the recipe down, make your “shopping list”. Write down (don’t rely on your memory, write it down!) all the items you will need. By that I mean, not only things like “salt, water, incense” but practical, little things like “bowl for water and salt, matches or firestarter, juice, cups, etc.”. Don’t forget to include those things you will put on your altar or altars. Don’t forget to include your feast offering in your “shopping list”. Also, if you have helpers “assign” them specific tasks in the outline so you know what YOU are responsible for and what OTHERS are responsible for. Make sure your helpers know well in advance what they are supposed to do so that they can prepare.

Once you have your outline, flesh it out. Are you calling quarters? Casting a circle? Doing something different to create Sacred Space? Are you indoors? Outdoors? These things need to be considered. Are you creating one altar? Or several? Make sure you make a comprehensive list of what you are putting on the altar(s) and put a checkmark or something next to anything you might need to buy so you don’t forget. One thing many people don’t remember to bring is an “offering basket/bowl” to be passed around or put on the altar or entrance for donations (assuming, of course, you are hoping to get reimbursed for your expenses). If you are asking someone else to bring libations, or things for the altar or ritual, make sure they are aware of this in advance and contact them a couple of days before to make sure they remembered it. A friendly reminder is usually appreciated and will save the person and you possible embarrassment at the ritual itself.

It is a good idea to make not only an outline, but a “script” of the ritual. The outline is great for your helpers to have so they know who is doing what when. But, unless you plan to do everything “off the cuff”, it might be good to actually write down, where appropriate in the ritual, what you are going to do and say. Memorize this if you wish, or keep it handy to refer to during the ritual. No one will fault you for having “notes”, especially if the ritual is complicated or lengthy. Personally, I would keep a first public ritual simple, but that is up to the individual and what help they have from other people. A lot also has to do with what “tradition” (if any) they choose to follow. Some traditions have very strict and complicated rules that must be followed if the ritual is going to be a true sampling of the tradition and not a rip off.

One thing to be very aware of…if you are doing a public ritual do NOT assume that everyone knows the “proper” way to do things according to the tradition you are using. Chances are, that is not at all true. Also, you might have “first timers” who have no idea what to expect. Before the ritual starts, make sure you explain a little about what is going to happen, any special things the attendees will be expected to do, etc. You don’t have to reveal any ‘mystery’, but a quick overview is always appreciated.

So, what “makes” or “breaks” a public ritual? In my experience it is all about organization and understanding your participants. It doesn’t matter if you base your ritual on Wicca, or Celtic Reconstruction, or Voodoo or whatever, just be organized about it. If you are planning an activity that will take some time and involve only one person or a few people at a time (such as doing divinations), come up with an activity that the others can do that relates to the ritual while they are waiting. Have appropriate music in the background if you just wish people to sit quietly and meditate. If there are going to be children present, be sure they have something to occupy themselves. Having to make “idle conversation” in the middle of a ritual while waiting for your turn at something is not conducive to a spiritual experience.

Questions to ask yourself before you commit to doing public ritual or at least before the day of the ritual:

1.     What is my reason for doing this ritual? What do I hope to bring to the larger community OR what do I hope to learn from doing this? (you can actually have answers to all three questions, sometime you both want to give and receive from a ritual)

2.     Who will be there? (i.e. children, lots of newcomers, etc). About how many will be there? How is the best way to handle the group size-wise? Where is the best place to hold this type of thing, considering the amount of people expected?

3.     Who can I call on to help? Where do I go to find the resources for research I need to do? Do I have the physical tools I need? (i.e. altar stuff, libations, etc.)

4.     If necessary, do I have the permits needed? If not, where do I go, who do I see? Do I have the financial resources to carry this out?

5.     Have I advertised this event adequately? Do I want to have lots of publicity, or only a little?

6.     Am I prepared for this? Have I rehearsed what will happen? Are my helpers all lined up? Are my supplies all bought and organized, ready to go? Have I planned for weather (if necessary)?

The biggest challenge for a first-timer doing public ritual is to be confident in oneself. Prepare, prepare, prepare but also be open to the unexpected and don’t be rigid. Don’t come down on yourself if everything doesn’t go exactly as planned…sometimes it just isn’t meant to. Once you have done the ritual, all the participants are gone, the place is cleaned up, and you are looking forward to sleeping because you are so physically and emotionally exhausted, take a moment and give yourself a “pat on the back”. You just accomplished something you can remember and be proud of the rest of your life. Leading a public ritual is to give a piece of yourself to the community. There is no greater gift than this.

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author bio:

Mariposa is a UU Pagan of 8 years duration. She spends much of her time reading, playing Celitc harp, and writing poetry. She calls her method of writing "Muse-inspired", as she writes the poem complete and whole at one sitting with, usually, only very minor changes. Also, if she gets "inspired" she must right down the poem at once or she "loses it". Mariposa currently holds the Office of Spirit for the Church of the Sacred Circle in Salt Lake City, and is also clergyperson of that pagan church. She hopes to get training to become a volunteer for the "No One Dies Alone" hospice program that sits with dying patients when family and friends are not available.

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