Working with Shadows
With all the news about self-harm lately, I decided to write about working with shadow energies this time. As a psychotherapist and light healer for forty years, I’ve seen a whole lot of them. And there are a few basic ways of dealing with fear that I wish everyone knew. The first one is that fear has no power of its own. It wants to steal our power by getting us to believe in it, focus on it, and do fear-based things. All of these; thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and actions have creative power, which create our own personal futures and add to fear’s power. So, the first thing to remember is, fear isn’t permanent. It can be intense at times, putting a whole lot of pressure on, but as soon as you focus on something you love, instead, the fear dissipates. And as soon as you heal it inside, it will be gone from your life. This is suggestion number one. Don’t give fear power in any way. Don’t spend lots of time focusing on things you are afraid of. Don’t listen to it. It’s not truth, and it only wants its own way. So, how do you tell the difference between a real warning from the spirit world about some danger in the world and a fear trying to get you to succumb to it? By the pressure. Fear wants to take control and can be really pushy. Real inner warnings from my guides and angels have always been gentle, a simple sentence and inner direction that is spoken quietly and only once. When fears come into my life, I simply write them down to heal in my next meditation and go back to whatever I was doing. (Obviously, this isn’t enough in a life-threatening situation, when taking immediate action to protect yourself is necessary. But those don’t happen very often.)
The second thing to know is that anyone can transmute fear in seconds and become empowered and stronger as an individual. The way I do this is to call in the specific fear energy associated with some negative event from my day, still my mind, and focus on that one shadow. Let’s say someone insulted me or stood me up or pushed me around in some way. As I think about that negativity, I can feel the resonance somewhere in my body, a tension or weakness. I send my mental focus to that place of tension and wait. In moments, memories of that particular fear playing out in various lifetimes arise in my mind, many memories from the time of my descent from heaven to earth, too. (If you don’t read energy in detail, not to worry, just getting a sense of it will help.) There are usually several lifetimes attached to a single fear impulse that has come into my life, a series of past lives. I focus on the shadow energy until I can feel the belief I have inside related to this fear. For instance, I may see a memory of a life where my mother yelled at me a lot, and I took on the belief that mothers aren’t very nice or don’t love me very much. So, once I understand the belief, I imagine it moving into the diamond light in the center of the four lobes of my heart. This diamond spark is the highest vibration in the body, a drop of Creator fire. And the shadow energy looks like smoke, which moves along with my thoughts. Just thinking of it coming into my heart pulls it there. (My druid guides say the mind is strong enough to move quarks and this is what I am seeing with my inner eye.) Anyway, once the shadow is sitting in the diamond light, it simply melts away or transmutes back into light, like a little cloud disappearing in the sky.
I want to access the belief in particular because my guides tell me it is beliefs that create our own little worlds. Our so called ‘realities’ are a precise outpicturing of our inner beliefs and can be changed by inner healing work. Inner creates outer, my guides have told me many times along the way. So, when I am imaging a fear moving into my diamond light, I also release my contract to believe in it, forever and a day. And after every healing on myself or with a client, I smile as watch the spirit world remove the effects of that fear from my own or my client’s life. Once, at the very beginning of energy school, I did a healing with a very, very skeptical client, and afterwards that day, her mother happened to call her. I found out later this hadn’t happened in 50 years! That client was instantly convinced! But most outer changes are subtle, gradual shifts into a better kind of life. And the next time I am faced with some fear energy I’ve recently healed, that shadow has no effect on me anymore. I just have no reaction to it at all, since the inner connection has been dissolved.
Since I began my own spiritual path 22 years ago, thousands of fears have shown up in my life. And every one came in as an unpleasantness in my life, some quite gentle, some dramatically intense, but every one simply a message from God/Goddess that I had some attachment to or belief in that particular fear. I now believe that nothing is really meant to harm us. All our troubles are simply a message to go inside and heal something. But there are teachings along the way that are important to learn, too. Dealing with pain in a positive way is deeply empowering as well. I became a spiritual warrior over all those years, and my life has become far more peaceful, gentle, humble, and meaningful over the years. I don’t get rattled very easily anymore. And learning things the hard way helps us never, ever forget the truths being built into our hearts. Enduring pain builds compassion for others who are in the same plight, too. Just reading about others who are suffering doesn’t engage the heart very much but living in that identical difficulty certainly does! So, everyone’s challenges in life bring forth the embodiment of wisdom. And this is because humanity’s main task is to renew wisdom for the cosmos. I have soul memories of long ago, before my own fall from the Creator Sun. Wisdom had grown stale and flat across the cosmos, and some star systems were invading other star systems as a result. Wisdom is a living thing, so it can only be renewed by living it into being again. And that means descending into realms of non-love and learning the laws of love all over again, through the hard, hard lessons of our lives. This is the task humanity took on. We are highly respected by the spirit world for this very difficult task. It is very honorable work, no matter how small one sometimes feels pursuing it.
Another important thing to know about fear is that is does not shift by force. Yelling at it will only make it rise up and get stronger. I watched this happen in energy school as a fellow student tried to force a fear energy out of her friend. Telling a fear to go away will not work, nor will yelling. The more you push it, the more fear pushes back. That’s because pushing and control are fear-based, and even fear is in service to love. Only love transmutes. So, thinking positively, taking loving action, holding the shadows in the light in the heart, then and only then will they disappear from our lives. Maybe halfway along on my own path, I finally realized the fears that were showing up in my life were just as afraid of me as I was of them. I learned to speak to them gently and explain that I wished only to heal them and meant no harm. My process became far easier after that, for even a crowd of shadows would simply lie down by my side and wait until I had time to heal them all.
I’ve been doing two healing meditations a day for 22 years, about 20 fears a day. So, complete healing of all the levels of one’s descent does take time. But it’s become a way of life for me now, and I barely notice when some shadow energy opens in my mind or outer life anymore. Also, there is a single core fear that each person carries, and this fear is wrapped into all the others and will reoccur all along the way until the end of the path, when it is finally healed. And then, one’s true love at long last shows up (I am still waiting!) and that highest destiny or inner divine child is finally birthed into a living reality.
It’s really easy to shift oneself out of a fear, too, far easier than most people realize. Calming music, for instance, restructures the emotional body in moments. Doing something fun, despite the pain, does the same. Calling a friend works, too. Trees, rivers, the sea, flowers, animals, and the earth are all amazing healers, and all are waiting eagerly to help us in any way they can. And if you are really constricted in your life and can’t do any of these things, imagine yourself shrinking down small enough to sit inside the diamond spark in the middle of the four lobes of your heart to be surrounded by the diamond light (You don’t have to be able to see it in your mind’s eye, just set the intention. It will be.) This eases just everything, and often solutions that are sensible and workable, very creative ideas, come forth. If you can do nothing else, think positive thoughts and just endure. Don’t give in or give up. Don’t try to force change or send negative thoughts, which will just create a rebound on yourself and make it all worse. Do whatever you need to for yourself to stay strong. Suicidal impulses, for instance, will always shift in about three days, just wait it out and things will look quite differently. Wisdom is being built into your heart during your difficulty (and you are likely paying off some less-than-loving action of a former lifetime, too), know this, and that you will be released by the universe when it is time.
But more than just oneself, all humanity’s old unhealed fears, our collective unconscious, is creating what happens across the global stage. Lots of people are suffering here! We all have five basic parts of our inner spirits; boy (right abdomen and leg), girl (left abdomen and leg), mother (left chest and arm), father (right chest and arm), and beloveds (heart). Earth is structured the same way, with four continents and the Middle East; the boy in S. America, girl in Africa, mother in the Far East, father in N. America, and the Beloveds in the Middle East (a hologram of the Creator Sun). So, let’s say I have past lifetime fears about starvation in my left abdomen or leg, my little girl spirit inside. Until those fears are healed, they will affect the lives of people living in Africa, the little girl continent, as well as all beings in the girl quadrant of the cosmos. Healing my own fears draws a small bit of shadow off the whole earth, especially the place on earth where that fear is anchored in, as well as the entire universe. So, the really hopeful part of all this is that, if every person healed old fear energies inside themselves, their lives would turn into the true love/world service happy ending that has been written into all our inner divine children. The earth would turn into Paradise, and the cosmos would become one big heavenly playground of creative expression. All the outer fear-based creations would simply disappear: hunger, poverty, disease, crime, war, and on and on. Wahoo! So, keep walking, everyone. Keep hoping and healing. It will get very, very magical before too long, I just know it.
About the Author:
Jill Rose Frew, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, energy healer, workshop leader, and author. She will be opening a school teaching light healing and the Celtic path of enlightenment in 2019. For information, please see www.CelticHeaven.com
She is author of Guardians of the Celtic Way: The Path to arthurian Fulfillment (her name was Jill Kelly then), and Alba Reborn, Alba Reborn, Book One, Revised, Alba Reborn, Book Two, and Alba Reborn, Book Three.