Review of First Wives Club
Bright Blessings Film Lovers!
The film I am reviewing is one I watched many years ago, back before I was Pagan, and this time, my Pagan mind realized it’s chock full of magical lessons!
Here is a trailer you can enjoy for The First Wives Club.
This 1996 film stars Goldie Hawn, Diane Keaton, and Bette Middler. It was adapted from a 1992 book by Olivia Goldsmith.
The film starts with four college gal pals, Cynthia, Annie, Brenda, and Elise getting ready to graduate and embark on their new adventures! Cynthia gifts matching pearl necklaces to her friends and herself and makes them all promise they will always be there for one another no matter what.
Fast forward to decades later, and Cynthia commits suicide!
Annie, Brenda, and Elise are horrified, and all go to the funeral. All four have lost touch with one another, and the surviving friends meet, and pledge to start something called The First Wives Club. All three have been ditched by their husbands for younger women, and they want revenge! This is after YEARS of putting their own hopes and careers on hold to do all they can to support their unappreciative husbands.
They get it, in hilarious scene after hilarious scene, but the best part is how the ladies lives begin to transform while they are on the warpath. I won’t spoil the fun by telling what they do, and what the zany results are. You will have to enjoy that for yourselves!
What I will say is the magic of women supporting one another in a man’s world proves to be more powerful than anything else. Some say we are the weaker sex. Not so. Only women can carry life within us, multitask, and women live longer. We are almost always the ones holding family together, and we are often left to support families all on our own. Not always! But often!
With one another, the three friends not only worked together to take down their cheating exes, but established their own careers they had discarded. How many women do you know who have lost themselves in relationships? I have done it, myself, and everybody could see it but me. Getting out from under toxic relationships that ate their souls, the heroines of the story rediscovered parts of themselves they had completely forgotten about. Being in touch with who you are, what your needs are, and what you want to do with your life is perhaps the most magical thing of all.
Not everybody who says they will marry you is worth marrying- or even dating for that matter. Love for somebody can blind us to the way they really are until it’s too late. Maybe it would have been too late for our heroines unless they had one another.
To be listened to, validated, and supported when we feel we have hit rock bottom gives us the energy to grow again, as the ladies did.
They were joined by both female and male loved ones who would not watch Annie, Brenda, and Elise’s exes destroy them when they threw them in the trash.
This film reminds us not to base our self-worth on how people who don’t appreciate us treat us. Sometimes, we have nobody but ourselves, and truthfully, I know plenty of stories when that was enough, but usually it’s not. We have to have somebody who really loves us remind us of who we are, and what we are worth. We are worth so much more than what people who don’t appreciate us think we are.
One of the many magical lessons offered in this is to be careful who you are close to. Toxic people, like the three heroines’ husbands, are not worth it, even if it takes years to realize you made a mistake in selecting who to be intimate with.
This film is also a gentle reminder to be careful who we cross. These First Wives are powerful ladies not to be messed with, and the three husbands find out the hard way.
So love your friends, family, and most importantly yourself, folks, as this film teaches. Support your fellow women. When your life is falling apart around you, lean on the people who truly value you, and if somebody fucks with you- fuck them harder.
A must see film.
About the Author:
Saoirse is a practicing witch, and initiated Wiccan of an Eclectic Tradition.
A recovered Catholic, she was raised to believe in heaven and hell, that there is only one god, and only one way to believe. As she approached her late 20’s, little things started to show her this was all wrong. She was most inspired by the saying “God is too big to fit into one religion” and after a heated exchange with the then associate pastor of the last Xtian church she attended, she finally realized she was in no way Xtian, and decided to move on to see where she could find her spiritual home.
Her homecoming to her Path was after many years of being called to The Old Ways and the Goddess, and happened in Phoenix, Arizona. She really did rise from her own ashes!
Upon returning to Ohio, she thought Chaos Magic was the answer, and soon discovered it was actually Wicca. She was blessed with a marvelous mentor, Lord Shadow, and started a Magical Discussion Group at local Metaphysical Shop Fly By Night. The group was later dubbed A Gathering of Paths. For a few years, this group met, discussed, did rituals, fellowship, and volunteering together, and even marched as a Pagan group with members of other groups at the local gay Pride Parade for eight years.
All the while, she continued studying with her mentor, and is still studying for Third Degree, making it to Second Degree thus far.
She is a gifted tarot reader, spellworker, teacher, and was even a resident Witch at a Westerville place dubbed The Parlor for a time.
Aside from her magical practice, she is a crocheter, beader, painter, and a good cook. She has been a clown and children’s entertainer, a Nursing Home Activities Professional, a Cavern Tour Guide, a Retail Cashier, and a reader in local shops. Her college degree is a BA in English Writing. She tried her hand at both singing and playing bagpipes, and…well…let’s just say her gifts lie elsewhere! She loves gardening, reading, antiques, time with friends and soul kin, and lots and lots of glorious color bedecking her small home!
On the encouragement of a loved one several years back, she searched for a publication to write for, and is right at home at PaganPagesOrg.
She is currently residing in Central Ohio with her husband, and furbabies.
Saoirse can be contacted at [email protected].